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Originally Posted by RRRED
If you are healthy and not using drugs, you could go for a private adoption with a nice family of your choice after you personally screen them. You can have all your expenses paid and possibly have some sort of open adoption where you can keep in touch with the child as they grow up.
But if you want to abort, that's your right too. I agree with you on the foster system. I was one foster child out of 7 and each and every one went through hell. I seemed to be the luckiest since I was given up (more like taken away) at birth so I had only one foster home for a few months.
If you're going to give up your baby though, do it at birth. Don't try to be a martyr and "give it a try" especially if you already have a special needs child. You shouldn't take away from one to attempt another if you believe in your heart already that you don't think you can pull it off.
There is no greater act of love that you can show other than giving your baby a chance that they might never have otherwise. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
So what's with the dad? He was engaged to you and then left you when he found out you were pregnant? Or was he only engaged to you as a means to control you until he found something better? I'd sue his ass...
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wow i really value your advice thankyou! i have thought about each and every option, obsticle and so forth and quite honestly "Don't try to be a martyr and "give it a try" especially if you already have a special needs child."
would be something i am more than likely to try out of a later on desperate attempt becuase i do very much have that mommy gene implanted into me in a ridiculous way. i also know facts from so much research lately and soul searching. its so hard to explain too, i love my child and i know a new one won't have all i can give and to just give my child away once it becomes a child is devestating and all the risks that come with it! (wrong parents, or judge a child off my lifestyle so it wont be adopted, foster, etc)
agh so much! it sucks!
"So what's with the dad? He was engaged to you and then left you when he found out you were pregnant? Or was he only engaged to you as a means to control you until he found something better? I'd sue his ass"
we were both in love, engaged, and so we thought i guess were ready for a child i found out the hard way he wasn't and a harder realization that i can't do it alone or give him a potential disaster life
does this make sense LOL i had too much feeling at once and "ramble typed"