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Originally Posted by hydro
Get out and make sure you learn the lesson of NEVER getting involved with a single mother. I know they all have some story about how they were so perfect and the guy that left them was a total asshole but there is a reason they left even though there was a baby, most likely because she was fucking crazy. There are simply too many normal chicks with no kids on this planet to be wasting time with a single mother.
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thats not true at all man
Lots of single moms out there that are great. It's picking which ones are the ones who are single due to the ex or due to themselves. I was blind to it with this one.. but wised up real quick.. problem was.. I was already madly in love with her.
I deserve soooo much better than this girl but it's hard to let go of something that makes me smile every time i see her face and cry like a baby every time I look at her pictures and pictures I took of her kids over the past few months.
Her 7 year old messaged me yesterday and told me she loves me and thinks im the best.. How the fuck can I deal with that? That's fucking heart breaking man... and her other 3 kids .. especially the youngest who nobody can even touch without her freaking out lets me take her out of the van and into my home as mommy drives away so I can hang out with her for a bit. NOBODY can do that with her except me and her father.
if any reason there is not to date single moms is.. guys.. you WILL fall in love with not only her.. but HER KIDS TOO!
I've never been this torn up in my life.
I lost EVERYTHING over this one. My landlord already made plans to rennovate so I have to be out soon enough, I missed so much time with work It's gone. I also lost my ability to trust another female in my entire life. How someone I loved so much could do the things to me that she has done is something I CANNOT understand at all.
I did meet some good people in the process of all of this though. I've been talking to a 34 year old milf that is going through a similar thing and we've been confiding and keeping each other's spirits up, in the process of scouring that dating site to figure shit out about her I ran into an ex girlfriend from many years ago whom we became pretty good friends again and a few others that are on the same playing field as me.
I'm going to end up going back to school and doing what I always wanted to do, eletrical wiring or computer network administration. Both my passions. I'm looking more towards eletricla wiring though, huge demand for electricians and the trade is drying up of qualified people to do the job. Great pay... really great pay.
In the meantime I'm going to be exploring different jobs I've always wanted to do and as well as take on orders for high end blog templates on a per person basis... I'm talking very high end.. Not this cookie cutter stuff the companies around here are building.
Anyways, maybe I didnt need advice.. but just a reassurance that leaving this girl in my dust if she proves negative is the right thing to do and if she is positive positive to at least make an attemp and if nothing changes leave her in my dust and only be there for the child. One thing's for sure.. she won't be raising it if she is pregnant and us not working out. I will NOT allow her to be the way she is now and influence that child into being like her. Her 4 kids she has now .... 3 of them are lying on a daily basis to get what they want. her oldest made up stories to ger her pissed at me before and I called him on it and proved to her that her actions and ways of life are affecting her kids in worse ways than what affected her upbringing.
thanks guys