I have an amazing son. He's really the light of my life. I can't imagine life without him. He just gives the world a whole different outlook. His innocence and intelligence inspire me.
And he's so well loved. He's given plenty of affection from his entire family: me, his mother, his grandparents, aunt's, uncles... everyone adores him.
I spoil him to death but you wouldn't know it to be around him. I've had so many people remark about what a great kid he is. In his 5 and a half years of life he's never thrown a fit. Not even once. And I've never once raised my voice to him. Ever. Most parents don't like to take the time to do the right thing by their children.
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Let me digress a bit and tell you what I mean by that:
* my son (whoops, almost wrote his name - I'd rather keep that private) has NEVER been told by me, "because I said so"... that's just not in my vocabulary with him... Things are explained and he is always given a reason "why".
* in public, I don't humiliate him by correcting him out loud. I call him to me and whisper in his ear. This keeps him from getting embarrassed. It's simply not necessary to embarrass a child. What does it prove to show "I'm the adult so I'm in charge?" Seriously!
* When I have something to say to him, especially when correcting him, I get down on my knees and talk to him at HIS eye level. This shows respect to him even though he doesn't realize it. And I talk to him in a level voice free of any "attitude".
There are many other things that have contributed to this kid's great demeanor. But those are what comes to me off the top of my head. Doing things this way is a lot more work than how many raise their children, but it really pays off. In fact, my own parents have told me they've taken lessons from how my ex-wife and I raise our son. They've literally changed the way they interact with children after seeing how we handle my little buddy.
The things I mentioned above lets a kid know he's really, truly wanted and not a bother. I fucking hate hearing parents yell at their children. Don't they know what that does to a child's self esteem?
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Anyway... my son (name almost slipped again... had to go back and correct that) graduated from PreSchool today. He was born in December so he'll be almost 6 when he starts Kindergarten later this year (same situation with me). He's such a smart kid and I was so proud to see his ceremony today. But at the same time I felt a bit of sadness. Time is marching on. He's growing up. Soon he'll be to the age where he won't want the other kids to see him give dad a goodbye kiss or a hello hug.
But today I just enjoyed his first stepping stone on the road to education. Damn, he swells my chest. I could not possibly be prouder...
And he's so well loved. He's given plenty of affection from his entire family: me, his mother, his grandparents, aunt's, uncles... everyone adores him.
I spoil him to death but you wouldn't know it to be around him. I've had so many people remark about what a great kid he is. In his 5 and a half years of life he's never thrown a fit. Not even once. And I've never once raised my voice to him. Ever. Most parents don't like to take the time to do the right thing by their children.
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Let me digress a bit and tell you what I mean by that:
* my son (whoops, almost wrote his name - I'd rather keep that private) has NEVER been told by me, "because I said so"... that's just not in my vocabulary with him... Things are explained and he is always given a reason "why".
* in public, I don't humiliate him by correcting him out loud. I call him to me and whisper in his ear. This keeps him from getting embarrassed. It's simply not necessary to embarrass a child. What does it prove to show "I'm the adult so I'm in charge?" Seriously!
* When I have something to say to him, especially when correcting him, I get down on my knees and talk to him at HIS eye level. This shows respect to him even though he doesn't realize it. And I talk to him in a level voice free of any "attitude".
There are many other things that have contributed to this kid's great demeanor. But those are what comes to me off the top of my head. Doing things this way is a lot more work than how many raise their children, but it really pays off. In fact, my own parents have told me they've taken lessons from how my ex-wife and I raise our son. They've literally changed the way they interact with children after seeing how we handle my little buddy.
The things I mentioned above lets a kid know he's really, truly wanted and not a bother. I fucking hate hearing parents yell at their children. Don't they know what that does to a child's self esteem?
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Anyway... my son (name almost slipped again... had to go back and correct that) graduated from PreSchool today. He was born in December so he'll be almost 6 when he starts Kindergarten later this year (same situation with me). He's such a smart kid and I was so proud to see his ceremony today. But at the same time I felt a bit of sadness. Time is marching on. He's growing up. Soon he'll be to the age where he won't want the other kids to see him give dad a goodbye kiss or a hello hug.
But today I just enjoyed his first stepping stone on the road to education. Damn, he swells my chest. I could not possibly be prouder...
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