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  • xenigo
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    • Jan 2001
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    #1

    What holds relationships together? Sex, or love?

    Listing the phases of a relationship:

    When you first meet her, you're excited about scoring new cooter. You may not be 100% into her personality, but you're getting NEW COOTER! That's all I can think about at least.

    So she might drag you along for a few weeks, or a month before she gives it up. Hopefully it won't be longer than 24 hours or so though, and then you can sample the goods. But I can't let the girl go without getting some, or else it's a waste of a perfectly good girl.

    Then you're settling into tapping that ass. You tap it in the morning, the afternoon, and at night before you go to bed. The thought enters your mind that she kinda annoys you, but at this point you can't really live without the cooter. So you keep her around.

    6 months goes by, and you're questioning the longetivity of the relationship. Honestly I took an entire 6 months to SEE THROUGH the cloud of deception that sex puts in my mind. Sex and love began to seem as if they were one. But I guess reality started to set in when I realized I was falling asleep when she was talking to me, and it was kinda like listening to white noise on the radio. I couldn't remember anything we had talked about because for some reason I just couldn't get myself interested in anything she had to say. I'd forget plans, and most of the time I just couldn't care less. That's not a healthy relationship in any regard.

    So I ended it. I know there's a TON of people out there that find someone, have sex, and get locked into the aforementioned cycle. It's not really too easy to break out of. And it's not even easy to see that there's problems in your relationship. Who wants to think they don't really love the person they're with, anyway? And who would admit that to the girl they're with, much less themselves?

    Now I'm not saying sex is a bad thing in the least bit. I can't live without it, and when I'm in a relationship I better be getting it or I won't be there for much longer. But sex in a bad relationship is kinda like trying to see the problems in your life when you've got a drug problem.

    But the question remains: What keeps a relationship together? I know a lot of guys get together with a new girl for the benefit of having sex with a new girl. Do you stay together for the benefits of having sex? And would you actually be able to figure out if your relationship completely sucked at that point?
  • reynold
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    • Oct 2002
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    #2
    Both! It's like a cream on your coffee to keep you going all day!lol

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    • adonthenet
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      #3
      love mostly ..

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      • Major (Tom)
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        • Nov 2003
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        #4
        both really...
        both go a long way. I would say its love that keeps most women around though.
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        • escorpio
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          #5
          money
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          • junction
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            • Dec 2002
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            #6
            respect.

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            • tradermcduck
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              #7
              Both - end of thread
              Last edited by tradermcduck; 06-02-2005, 03:40 AM.
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              • Walrus
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                • May 2005
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                #8
                I think it often depends on the country. I know that in Sweden if the sex isn't good, it's over. Not so much here in the USA... The guy or wife will just cheat or whack off or something without leaving.

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                • Redrob
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                  #9
                  I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                  Good Luck.

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                  • gangbangjoe
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                    #10
                    both
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                    • kuthi123
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                      #11
                      both+money

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                      • loverboy
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                        • May 2003
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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Redrob
                        I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                        Good Luck.
                        very well said

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                        • guschi2k
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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Redrob
                          I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                          Good Luck.

                          that is so true!!! if you don't have anything to say to each other, things will get really boring after a few months/years.

                          edit: but a satisfying sex life + love are also essential
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                          • TDF
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                            #14
                            honesty holds all
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                            • Nanda
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                              #15
                              Originally posted by Redrob
                              I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                              Good Luck.
                              Was your marraige ever in danger of ending?

                              so Xenigo, to answer ur question, I held on to my marraige because I thought their was love and the sex was good....but one day I realized it all stopped.....and it just ended....

                              So I think communication, love, honesty, trust, repect, and sex make a good marriage...(from what I have seen in other's)
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                              • JUSTB
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                                #16
                                you need both!

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                                  • chase
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                                    #18
                                    Well, one without the other will leave you feeling empty in the long run, so both. I think there are four crucial elements of a successful relationship: trust, respect, love, and passion. Seems redundant, but they aren't really; all or any can be felt independently of any other. They're like table legs-when you lose one, it's damn near impossible to keep the table standing.
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                                    • topbizucksMark
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                                      #19
                                      I beleive the love of sex is the strongest glue


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                                      • axelcat
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                                        #20
                                        both for sure

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                                        • sonofsam
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                                          #21
                                          Originally posted by Redrob
                                          I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                                          Good Luck.
                                          great post
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                                          • galleryseek
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                                            #22
                                            Originally posted by topbizucksMark
                                            I beleive the love of sex is the strongest glue
                                            baha, for a nympho maniac, sure! otherwise it's completely wrong and I imagine you probably haven't had too many meaningful relationships...

                                            Next time you meet a girl, and she seems to have a great personality, NOT A SLUT (no one wants a slut for a long term relationship), and just seems like a perfect candidate - resist all temptations to have sex with her and simply, hah, get to know her. Wait for three months and resist all temptations, doing this will force you to focus on "her" and not having sex with her - if you're able to do it, the sex will mean much more, place much more significance on the relationship, and will let her know you aren't the typical guy. (this goes a long way).

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                                            • tranza
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                                              #23
                                              I have to go with sex....
                                              I'm just a newbie.

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                                              • TheLegacy
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                                                #24
                                                neither.. its respect and open communication

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                                                • kaylacruz
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                                                  #25
                                                  good post, it's actually really true that people get trapped in the 'heavenly period' it's making it through after that that makes or breaks the relationship.

                                                  For me, at first its hot sex with a sexy guy.. then maybe i'll fall in love eventually..
                                                  Kayla

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                                                  • Marcus Aurelius
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                                                    #26
                                                    after 9 years of marriage, and 11 year with the same woman, I would say...

                                                    Compromise and self sacrifice. If both of you arent willing to make them in equal portions, it will never last.

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                                                    • LittleSassy
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                                                      #27
                                                      yep...both...and money..of course

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                                                      • Porterrun
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                                                        #28
                                                        KIDS.... not anything else
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                                                        • Tania
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                                                          #29
                                                          Originally posted by Redrob
                                                          I've been married 23 years and find that a good interesting conversation goes a long way. Any marriage has it's ups and downs. Good looks fade away. But, the ability to keep your partner interested in what you are saying and doing, sharing a good laugh, and, having a similar world view will go a long way to making the marriage work.

                                                          Good Luck.
                                                          I agree all the way

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                                                          • hova
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                                                            #30
                                                            both, and some more
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                                                            • Holly
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                                                              #31
                                                              Money and a weak heart.
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                                                              • Semi-Retired-Dave
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                                                                #32
                                                                I think sex plays a big role in a relationship. Love is there, but I think its just more of people getting used to than actual love.

                                                                But without good sex, forget it.

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                                                                • naugthygUrL
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                                                                  #33
                                                                  both....

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                                                                  • baddog
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                                                                    #34
                                                                    Can't be the sex on its own, because I have been in lots of relationships where the sex was great. It is fun, while it lasts, but without love, forget it.

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                                                                    • Vitasoy
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                                                                      #35
                                                                      A combination of both.. and money ;)


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                                                                      • Cassie
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                                                                        #36
                                                                        communication and common goals to move ahead.
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                                                                        • Silent_Thunder
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                                                                          #37
                                                                          You are the product and she is the customer. Keeping your conversations interesting, showing attention and respect, being creative and so on will make you a good product
                                                                          The problem is when you ( the product ) want to become the customer and you realise that she doesn't have to sell anything

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                                                                          • xenigo
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                                                                            #38
                                                                            Originally posted by Silent_Thunder
                                                                            You are the product and she is the customer. Keeping your conversations interesting, showing attention and respect, being creative and so on will make you a good product
                                                                            The problem is when you ( the product ) want to become the customer and you realise that she doesn't have to sell anything
                                                                            Ahhh, I like the way you put that.

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                                                                            • gecko
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                                                                              #39
                                                                              You need both to have a healthy relationship.
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                                                                              • Stacey_JoinRightNow
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                                                                                #40
                                                                                actually its both...but of course if any of two suddenly turns out incapable of sexual intercourse, then it doesnt mean that they are incapable of being with each other & loving each other

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                                                                                • Ogix
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                                                                                  #41
                                                                                  money is holding everything.if not the money, then there is no love and sex i'm sure.right!

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                                                                                  • Denis_SC
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                                                                                    #42
                                                                                    I'd say " Lovely sex "

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                                                                                    • Rhesus
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                                                                                      #43
                                                                                      You've got to be idiots. If you even have to wonder what keeps a relationship going, you better not start at all, what kind of ridiculous relationships are those?

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                                                                                      • FilthyRob
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                                                                                        #44
                                                                                        Analsex for sure, definetaly bang her in the ass.

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                                                                                        • bellskids
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                                                                                          #45
                                                                                          being trapped in a relationship without love is an absolute nightmare You need both to make a success of things.

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