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Old 11-15-2002, 01:24 PM  
TheFLY
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You need to tell her the truth, while providing good therapy simultaneously... You are partially responsible for her sorrow -- or at least your expectation of sorrow -- otherwise if you weren't expecting her sorrow you wouldn't be here on GFY...

So that's what you have to explain to her -- that you care about her a lot -- otherwise you wouldn't have such a hard time telling her that she does not satisify all of your desires... Perhaps you love her, and she loves you, but that's not always enough... You are not "in love" -- which I believe is a sort of pure love based on selflessness -- true "love" is when both sides are loving unconditionally -- you have both decided to not be selfish -- but in many cases that is impossible to do with people because your human desires get in the way -- human desires like physical attraction, the need to be understood, the amount of affection shared, intellectual conversation, does she go deep enough on your cock during oral sex, etc. etc.

Just explain the shit as it is... Be true to yourself and be nice to her and just be realistic... Investigate all angles of the situation -- you can solve this... The solution may be a little messy, but that is something you will have to live with -- because if you can't live with yourself then you are in an even worse situation.
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