The sheer pleasure and experience of raising a child. It's a continual joy. But it's only for those who want it and are ready for it.
Ruining the prime of my life and 18 years of parental slavery just so I can get a few hospital visits at the very end when I'm about to die anyway doesn't sound like a good deal to me.
ok in your case you shouldnt!!!!!!!! and for the rest of us, or should i say myself, i love my daughter more and more everyday and wouldnt want to spend a day without her in my life, she is the greatest joy i have ever had
I had a child because it was "the next step". However, the amount of joy my child brings me a daily basis is something all of the money in the world cannot provide. It's something you cannot explain to someone who doesn't have a child.
i have 2 of my own...16 ,omths and 3 weeks even tghough their is total madness in my house i would never give it up in the world,, my kids are a part of me ,,, my seeds... some to watch your back at any time when you get old <<< lol
someone's mr negative here tonight.
Children are a great experience and I'm loving every minute of it, even when I'm in a flaming mad fit because my little one won't stop crying, I still remember how much I adore and love him.
ok in your case you shouldnt!!!!!!!! and for the rest of us, or should i say myself, i love my daughter more and more everyday and wouldnt want to spend a day without her in my life, she is the greatest joy i have ever had
I feel the same way about my son. I can't imagine my world without him.
I wanted to have a child because I loved my husband sooo much that I truly wanted to build a family with him. I wanted there to be more people in the world like him. My son is a real-life display of our love for one another.
No thanks. Most people desire children because they feel "it's the next step" or there is pressure put on them by their own parents looking for grandkids. Even worse, many incorrectly feel that a child will "solve" the problems already inherent to the relationship, which is like throwing a tanker truck full of nitro on a small campfire.
Bottom line: Everything nice you own gets destroyed/fucked up, nights out become a babysitter locating nightmare OR a rush-through-dinner-as-fast-as-possible to get the kids back home routine, and there is no possible comeback for "I'm sorry honey, no sucky sucky tonight, I'm beat from handling the kids all day". LOL, try and persuade a Mom that she's NOT too tired for some action from kid-duty, you might as well argue that Elvis is still alive.
And lets not even bring up the threat issue, the constant never-ending risk that at any moment they'll become a victim of some sort of disease/injury/child predator/car accident/poor judgement/etc, which is not just "18 years" but wondefully lasts the rest of your adult life.
It's one thing if you're very well off and can afford live-in nanny service, which buys you enough freedom that some semblance of normal life is possible, but unless you're in that 1/100th of one percent for income, your life as you know it is over the day the first one is born.
Not for me, and really when thought about rationally without emotion, not for most.
and for the rest of us, or should i say myself, i love my daughter more and more everyday and wouldnt want to spend a day without her in my life, she is the greatest joy i have ever had
Then why did my friends cry when they found out she was pregnant and they weren't married ? They knew their life was over.
No you don't.
In this world there is no real "love" other than that between a parent and child.
All other "love" comes and goes like new sitcoms.
I don't have kids, but I have raised my nieces going on 12 years now.
The youngest, Hanna was neglected by her father growing up so she bonded with me and rather strongly...there were times when she was small she would say she wished I was her father...and there have been other times even as she got older and I worked a lot she'd say things like...she was mad like most little girls who's fathers worked too much.
Now she knows I'm not her father..but I'm trying to get to a point here.
I can honestly say that I have never felt that kind of unconditional love from anyone else in my life...and I probalby only see about a 10th of what she has for her mom.
You're their hero, their answer in times of trouble. It's very satisfying and very scary all at the same time.
And to answer the question: there is no point.. just like theres no point of sticking a body part into the cavity of someone from the opposite sex.
Just instincts.. and because we people hate to admit we give in to instincts we think of all lame excuses "ahh.. its beautiful.. i cant explain.. its the best thing ever.."
And to answer the question: there is no point.. just like theres no point of sticking a body part into the cavity of someone from the opposite sex.
There is a good point in sticking a body part into the cavity of someone from the opposite sex. It feels good.
Originally posted by mrthumbs
Just instincts.. and because we people hate to admit we give in to instincts we think of all lame excuses "ahh.. its beautiful.. i cant explain.. its the best thing ever.."
instinct.. like rats.
I think the main reason is social pressure. People are sheep - they are afraid to be different. So they do what everyone around is doing, fuck their life up, and spend the rest of their days being miserable, thinking of all the lost opportuniies and things they have never done.
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