Married Men that Webmaster from Home (RANT!)

100 rants....

When they know you spend the day on a forum called Go Fuck Yourself it doesn't help your lazy life-style image either.

I've had to do this more than once myself in the past 5 years, she clearly got the message...


and she clearly knows that me getting a REGULAR schlep 9-5 job paying 2-3k a month won't hack it either, she likes being able to pay the bills that require a LOT more than a 'regular' job would lol...

I've been webmastering from home full time for 6 years - my mother STILL asks "when are you going to get a real job?" every time I speak to her. I once told her that I make more in a day than she makes in a week. Her reply? "Think how much you could earn if it was a real job"

very good point.

I know, it's impossible to convince some people. Now I just ignore people who respond that way

hehe, well I really was only kidding about the red towel with the white clothes. I could never actually do that on purpose, lmao.

I posted actual advice earlier about just making a clear distinction between work and non-work and be proactive. Such as rise to an alarm clock for work, get showered for work, dressed for work.. Give her a kiss(maybe a squeeze) and tell her you'll be "home" for lunch.

Basically be strict on yourself about work times, and she'll be more mindful of it as well.

You should be able to work it out pretty well.

Leave her. No serious, they all think we are doing nothing, but in fact we work harder and make longer days then they do.

Owh well

Even I feel weird having spent a lot of time here since I registered. Maybe if it had a different name I'd be more `proud`.

I say keep a browser open with lemonparty in it, and whenever she walks in alt-tab to it. My guess is she'll start giving you alot more 'free' time :P

ok I'll bite, what the HELL is lemonparty?

i fear another goatse or *******?

http://www.lemonparty.org

Agreed

that is all dependant on the realtionship...my wife and I are best friends, we do almost everything together and have spent almost every waking moment together (aside from about 7 days total) since we met....and I don't see myself getting sick of it anytime soon
but we are not like most couples....we are kind of wierd

You should start a blog about staying sane while being with your woman. I liked that shit about playing mind games with her. That's sharp thinking. I never even thought of doing something like that before.

About to graduate college, so I'm not married but my girlfriend is exactly the same. She thinks that when I work at home I'm not working, it can get really annoying at times. I even tried walking her through a regular work day, although I don't think she paid much attention.

Women will be women.

sounds VERY familiar hmmmmmmmmmmm wonder who it could be

Probably some Canadian loser.

Yea, but you will soon have to spend a lot of time looking for a new wife.

i have my own office in the place we live now (2nd bedroom)... its bliss, just close the door and tell her just to bring you food... works for me ;-)

For me it got to the point where I was working so little to keep up with my significant other's demands that I literally was barely able to pay my mortgage for a month. It was ridiculous. Once she realized how poor we were she finally understood how dire it is that I spend all this time downstairs. She actually asks me when I will get my ass downstairs to make more money for us even though we are once again comfortable LOL. It was to the point where talking to a sales rep who happens to be female was me "chatting with internet sluts all day". I still get flack on that end of things though. She periodically scours my MSN and ICQ lists when I'm not around then comes upstairs and asks me who all these girls are talks in regards to them as internet sluts. Man it's aggravating to say the least.

Right now it's a problem with her friend. You see, we have a new baby and my girlfriend's job is looking after the baby for the most part. The government pays her to do so LOL. I am paid to build shit for a fellow sexy webmaster here and a handful of small clients. Now, this friend of hers was on the phone with her one day and my gf was complain about how tired she is. Then came "well, Chris needs to help out more, he's not doing enough, he should be doing 'this' and 'that'" etc etc. My GF tried explaining to her that I work 16 hour days on most days and that I need to do this to pay for everything. She still said "he could help out a lot more, he's at home, he should help more with everything and give you a break during the day" To which my GF said "if he doesn't work, we lose the house" She still proceeded to give her shit about me. Now, I help out as often as I can. I get up with the baby, bathe him, feed him once a day. Do laundry periodically. I am the ONLY one who cleans the washroom, the floors, dusting everything and do 70% of everything else. I keep the fire going. I shovel after every storm. I fix everything that breaks and I am there to support her when she's down. How is that not doing enough when I manage to do this all within a 16 hour work day?




I felt so much disrespect from it that I barred her from our home. There is NO way I am putting up with a man-hater dissing me when I work insane hours to provide a better life for my little one. Yes, she hates men, so much so that when she got pregnant she cut off all communication with the father blamed him pretty much for her predicament and proceeded to slut around after the baby was born and dumped the guys who didn't kiss the ground she walked on. Guess what? She's alone, jobless, living in the slums, has a shitty Cavalier that's falling to pieces and she's so depressed now that we refer to her as Eyore
Then there was my GF's sister who suggested to my GF one night "Why doesn't Chris just get a real job?" because my GF was complaining that she was low on cash. Man, we both got really fucking pissed. Meanwhile she had a career in corrections that she lost because she slept with an inmate, she then got thrown in jail for robbing her uncle's safe then her now boyfriend which she just had a baby with was too lazy to find a job.
Real job? WTF.

great thread!! im only 19 so i cant comment on the wife thing but i have friends that think i just have time to do whatever i want whenever i want. also hearing constant shit from my dad about how i dont have a plan and that maybe im just treading water is pretty annoying, i sent him a screen shot of some stats last night maybe that will shut him up -- he'll probably just tell me about how im not using my money the right way though, funny, i put pretty much everythnig back in to this shit right now i dont even drive a car. he always seems so ready to lecture me about how i could be doing this and that better but never all that interested in listening to all the cool shit i am already doing.

It's obvious he loves you and cares deeply about your future. Just remember that each time he gives you shit. Keep doing your thing. he'll come around once you start spending the money on yourself and have shit to show for it.

I will say that a relationship can flourish when both partners are able to understand the needs of each other. You don't have to totally understand them 100%, but if you respect them and try to compromise it makes things a lot better. This goes for both parties - the one trying to work at home and the one who loves you so much they can't but help themselves from wanting to spend more time with you when you are so close to them.

Guys are you all pussies or what? Really how you can allow this to happen, if someone would try to say me what should I do that would be the end of our relationship.

I find it much easier to work at my husband's side than to bug him not to work

LOL I understand this My father tells people Im unemployed and dont work. He then asked me could he borrow $12,000 until one of his long term investments came due I said to him how can I lend you 12K if I dont work he told me If I had a real job I would have even more money I then explianed to him That I make more 4X more they he did even when he was a manager still didnt make any diference he still belives I dont have a real job. Yeah I lent him the 12k and he paid me back but I just thought it was funny as hell.
On the Wife thing thats why now she is my Ex wife.

I Guess I should starta new work from home service you pay me $2000 a month and I will hire you for $1000 a month then you can all go say you work for someone and have a real job, but you are still a new age elecommuter And when your wife nags you tell her I am riding your ass, I will hire some cheap offshore people to be your icq boss and rag you from time to time for being a slacker.. and I will alos have them post to the boards how great you are at wok and that I am sorry for riding you so hard.

This will fix 99% of your problems, and will be a nice new rev stream for me

Recently I got back into this full time. I had to sit the wife down and let her know some things.

1. I am at my desk from ____ to ____ these are my work times. If I do more than that it's like any other guy with a job that does overtime.

2. My business bank account along with paypal and epassporte is just that. Business bank accounts.

3. I have a seperate phone for my business. This is not to be answered by the kids saying "yo whats up homie".

4. If you don't like the above rules I will go back and get a factory job for 3 to 4 hundred a week.

The other night she demanded more attention. I simply shut the computer off and said "Sure thing and tommorow I'll call fridays staffing and see what kind of 8 dollar an hour job I can get" She quickly let me get back to work.

get an office. you'll thank yourself many times over.

HOLY SHIT!! I'd never be brave enough to tell her that

You tryin' to get me divorced?

Not a bad idea, I think I'll try that starting tomorrow morning.

I'd be fine with leasing some office space, but I just don't see why I should have to, I'm just gonna have to lock myself in and damn the consequences.

Got laugh about this. Hubby thought he was doing a favor by doing the laundry since I was behind in my work. He washed a red sweater of mine with his undies...now he has pink undies.

Our house has two offices.....fortunately, Tev understands...and we hum along, meeting each other in the garage for a smoke or we talk on icq.

Unfortunately, the 21 year old son and the 66 year old mother in law do not see that we are working....and interrupt at will...drives us both crazy.

The one that irks me the most and I love her to death is my sister in law, who 'works' outside the home and thinks nothing of calling us to pick our nephews up from school, let the dog in....etc....because we're home and she's at 'work'.

I might be in my home; but, it's every bit an office....

LEAVE ME ALONE WHEN I'M WORKING ---- is that so HARD?

And, yes, I work odd hours...and, yes..sometimes until late at night....

I love how the outside world says...'gee, wish *I* could do THAT!'