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Degenerate · 05-28-2006, 10:50 PM

HECK HECK HECK no.

BlackCrayon · 05-29-2006, 04:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by babsy

My GF wouldn't dare. I'd look at her with enquiring eyes that suggested "excuse me?", and the whole thing would be over.

Look, I have what's known as a mature relationship with my chick. We trust each other. If she wants to go off fucking other men, then that's completely fine with me - it simply signifies that the relationship is over anyway. She wouldn't WANT to fuck other men if she was happy! Why is that so difficult to understand? She sets her OWN boundaries of appropriate behaviour, exactly the same as I do. Honestly, the idea of having to allow or disallow a partner to engage in an act strikes me as a last-ditched effort to desperately hold together the remaining tattered threads of a relationship.

Furthermore, what is with the complete lack of respect for a woman's ability to think for herself I'm seeing in this thread? "As soon as she has a drink she'll be sucking cocks like a $2 whore" seems to be the common consensus. Are you serious? It never crossed any of your minds that a woman is capable of conscious thought? That they're capable of assessing the crude attempts at seduction by drunk gentlemen at a party and saying "hmm... no, I love my partner and I enjoy my relationship. I shall not kneel down and chug poles this evening". Do you really believe that concept, no matter how much liquor is applied, is *impossible* for a woman to maintain? I'm just shocked. You talk about her "respecting" you, yet you have so little respect for her that you consider her little more than a dog to be chained up in the backyard - don't want it running away, after all!

You know how I keep my GF from leaving? By having her trust and respect. She loves the shit out of me. She wouldn't fuck around because she knows I'd dump her in a second, and she doesn't want that to happen. Relationships aren't about CONTROL, guys, jesus. That's just an awful concept. Why would you want to live your life worrying like that? You going to stop her going to the shopping centre next, incase someone tries to push up on her there? You so afraid she might end up stuffing dicks in her in the backseat of the SUV you paid for to cart the shopping around? You're only pushing her away with that disgusting, insecure jealousy. I know if I had a woman doing that shit to me, my first thought would be "well fuck that, if I'm going to get blamed for it, I might as well do it" - and that's exactly what's going to happen here.

you make valid points but you still suggest you'd do the same basic thing, just in a more subtle manner. of course its not about control and of course women can choose to do what they want and don't drop to their knees at the flick of a switch in most cases but women getting hit on by random guys and women asking to hang out with their ex's are two very different things.

maybe its just me but as CDSmith pointed out there seems to be a very big double standard in regards to this. you're woman never tells you to stop checking some chick out? never says she wants you to stay home tonight? am i to assume your relationship is so mature that the both of you does what the other wants 95% of the time?

either way i have a very hard time trusting anyone. i don't trust anyone besides my mother and father. i trust my girlfriend but i know like any other human, she is very capable of breaking that trust, just as i am of her trust.

also, this doesn't really apply to long term girlfriends but a lot of girls are like children. they want to test your limits and see how far they can go before you put your foot down.

DWB · 05-29-2006, 05:45 AM

She could go, but she would take her bags with her. There would be no coming "home" after a stunt like that with an EX boyfriend. Fuck that.

There is no reason to be talking to your ex about shit. You broke up for a reason. Cut it loose and move on with your life... or get out of mine. Very simple really.

polle54 · 05-29-2006, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by BoyAlley

"Allow"? I'm sorry but if I were a woman and some man tried to tell me what I was and was not "allowed" to do, that'd be the end of that relationship anyway.

A relationship lasts long-term because of mutual respect and trust, not because of "control".

If you can't trust your woman, and she can't trust you, you're better off being fuck buddies and not partners.

What a nice political correct answer

what a shame it's bullshit

Everyone can fall and at weddings people fall.

Trust is important but in this case I would choose to talk her out of it.

Saying to her she can't go is of course a braindead mistake that only a hopeless man would do.

Plan A.
Manipulate until she get's your point, spice up your argumentation with examples. Mix it with asking her if she would be happy if I went to a wedding with my drop dead gorgeos ex.
Your cocktail should be mixed and problem fixed.

Plan B.
If this ain't working - counter attack by planning boys night out and slip small remarks about it now and then, let her be surprised that you do so

Argue your cause by saying that she is 100% right we should do more things apart. (knowing that isn't her exact point but whatever).
This should trigger some reaction and if it don't, go have a great night out in a strip joint and let it be.

maybe this is "Thief thinks everybody steals..." but you decide

Boy Alley just presented the romantic (stupid) solution.
This is the practical ( get rid of the problem ) solution.

HpicAnn · 05-29-2006, 07:36 AM

Let us know why did they brake up!!

E$_manager · 05-29-2006, 07:37 AM

If that was planned before and if the bride or the groove are the friends of this ex-boyfriend then let them be. Your girlfriend will respect you more for the decision of letting her go with the guy

E$_manager · 05-29-2006, 07:48 AM

be sure that if you treat her with freedom - she will stay with you longer (if you really want it)

LadyMischief · 05-29-2006, 07:53 AM

If it's the kind of thing where it was arranged way before you met and the wedding planners are aware and want it that way or something... that's one thing. If she's still friends with him and you trust that friendship perhaps...

But why would she not want to take her current beau to show off to friends and family instead of some lame EX. He's an ex for a reason, right? Maybe before you decide anything you should ask why it's significant that HE should be by her side and not YOU?

E$_manager · 05-29-2006, 07:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mystery Man

Are you single?

There is no fucking way I'd let my girlfriend go to a wedding with her ex boyfriend. Hell if she even asked that shit she wouldn't be my girlfriend anymore. This has nothing to do with control. It has something to do with respect. And if your girlfriend asks you something like that there is no respect from her side.

Girlfriends are different. Do you just stay with a girl or you want to marry her? If you are not sure about the marriage why you will make some prohibitions to her? Who do you think you are?

Rhesus · 05-29-2006, 08:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by babsy

My GF wouldn't dare. I'd look at her with enquiring eyes that suggested "excuse me?", and the whole thing would be over.

Look, I have what's known as a mature relationship with my chick. We trust each other. If she wants to go off fucking other men, then that's completely fine with me - it simply signifies that the relationship is over anyway. She wouldn't WANT to fuck other men if she was happy! Why is that so difficult to understand? She sets her OWN boundaries of appropriate behaviour, exactly the same as I do. Honestly, the idea of having to allow or disallow a partner to engage in an act strikes me as a last-ditched effort to desperately hold together the remaining tattered threads of a relationship.

Furthermore, what is with the complete lack of respect for a woman's ability to think for herself I'm seeing in this thread? "As soon as she has a drink she'll be sucking cocks like a $2 whore" seems to be the common consensus. Are you serious? It never crossed any of your minds that a woman is capable of conscious thought? That they're capable of assessing the crude attempts at seduction by drunk gentlemen at a party and saying "hmm... no, I love my partner and I enjoy my relationship. I shall not kneel down and chug poles this evening". Do you really believe that concept, no matter how much liquor is applied, is *impossible* for a woman to maintain? I'm just shocked. You talk about her "respecting" you, yet you have so little respect for her that you consider her little more than a dog to be chained up in the backyard - don't want it running away, after all!

You know how I keep my GF from leaving? By having her trust and respect. She loves the shit out of me. She wouldn't fuck around because she knows I'd dump her in a second, and she doesn't want that to happen. Relationships aren't about CONTROL, guys, jesus. That's just an awful concept. Why would you want to live your life worrying like that? You going to stop her going to the shopping centre next, incase someone tries to push up on her there? You so afraid she might end up stuffing dicks in her in the backseat of the SUV you paid for to cart the shopping around? You're only pushing her away with that disgusting, insecure jealousy. I know if I had a woman doing that shit to me, my first thought would be "well fuck that, if I'm going to get blamed for it, I might as well do it" - and that's exactly what's going to happen here.

Excellent read. Bear in mind we're dealing with a few not-so-intelligable people here.

Th!nk · 05-29-2006, 08:18 AM

well I think I wouldn't let her go.
first of all, she would have said that she has a new bf now and should have asked to let her bf go with her. at least his bf's presence will make an impact.
she should have also think of her partners feelings first before saying yes to that occassion.

Double L · 05-29-2006, 08:39 AM

Shouldn't be any reason not to trust her. If I couldn't trust her then why bother.

Flipside I wouldn't ask her for permission to go to a wedding with an ex, because I would never put her in a situation like that out of respect to her. So what does that say if she did that to me?

Something is fked from the start if its a big deal to go with her ex because it was pre-planned. Pre-planned for who? Him? He has a wedding to go to and pre-planned her for the date? Pre-planned for her? Pre-planned for the bride and groom (they find it important they are there together instead of with others?) Was their breakup pre-planned? I say fk all that and if she wants to go to the wedding I'll go with her. Her ex can get his own date.

GTS Mark · 05-29-2006, 08:53 AM

xApster · 05-29-2006, 10:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DrinkingHARDEST

Just had a MSN conversation with my friend in question. Names have been changed to protect the innocent LOL! ;)

XXXXX says:
btw XXXXX didnt cheat

XXXXX says:
i know how tight her pussy is when she hasnt had sex in 24 hrs

XXXXX says:
and it was that tight

Mark says:
LMAO

Mark says:
you're a sick sick man

XXXXX says:
im serious

XXXXX says:
when shes only gone 24 hrs i can tell

XXXXX says:
i konw

Mark says:
well how do you know she didn't give the guy a BJ?

Mark says:
LOL

XXXXX says:
why would she do that

XXXXX says:
what does she get outta it

Mark says:
LMAO

XXXXX says:
shes to selfish to do that

Mark says:
Dude I am totally copying and pasting this convo on GFY and changing the names. This is fucking GOLD!

Mark says:
LOL

XXXXX says:
LOL

XXXXX says:
if my name shows up ill kill u

Mark says:
hahahahahahaha

DH

Maybe the guy just had a really small dick ?

Jman · 05-29-2006, 10:19 AM

LMAO Big Pimps on GFY with a strong PimpHand...

I can only imagine the ones in relationships how you really act around your girl... Remember she's the one that as the pussy you crave and don't have to pay for

Oh and who buys purses and other expensive gifts to their girl when coming back from a tradeshow???

I heard shit to many times, this thread is really making me chuckle

Wait, my bad. Getting a lapdance in a touch n feel bar is just ok right, I am sure you will ask her permission before going eh?

ElvisManson · 05-29-2006, 10:25 AM

going to a wedding is like going to the lake for the summer when you were a kid...

all best are off and shit happens.

Doctor Dre · 05-29-2006, 10:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CDSmith

I know one thing on this subject: That is, if I were to tell any gf of mine during any past relationship that I was going to a wedding with my ex, there would have been hell to pay. No woman I know would be okay with her man going to a wedding or ANY kind of social function as a couple with his ex.

Why should the reverse be okay?

The person you're with should always be your FIRST and only choice for whom to go out with. And those people having the wedding should be flexible about it and let her bring the date she's with. Screw the "pre-arranged" shit.

Best reply ever. I'm saving this in a quote book I keep if an event like that comes arround

Phoenix · 05-29-2006, 10:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xApster

Maybe the guy just had a really small dick ?

hahaha now i really know who this is about

CDSmith · 05-29-2006, 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JMan

LMAO Big Pimps on GFY with a strong PimpHand...

I can only imagine the ones in relationships how you really act around your girl... Remember she's the one that as the pussy you crave and don't have to pay for

kanalj · 05-29-2006, 10:48 AM

why the hell not, there seems to be a lot of trust issues here and that's just the opposite of what you need in a good relationship. or what, you afraid that her ex has a bigger schlang then you? ^__^

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DWB Registered User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Encrypted. Access denied. Posts: 31,779	She could go, but she would take her bags with her. There would be no coming "home" after a stunt like that with an EX boyfriend. Fuck that. There is no reason to be talking to your ex about shit. You broke up for a reason. Cut it loose and move on with your life... or get out of mine. Very simple really.

05-29-2006, 08:18 AM	#111
Th!nk Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 6,996	well I think I wouldn't let her go. first of all, she would have said that she has a new bf now and should have asked to let her bf go with her. at least his bf's presence will make an impact. she should have also think of her partners feelings first before saying yes to that occassion.

05-29-2006, 08:39 AM	#112
Double L Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: US Posts: 349	Shouldn't be any reason not to trust her. If I couldn't trust her then why bother. Flipside I wouldn't ask her for permission to go to a wedding with an ex, because I would never put her in a situation like that out of respect to her. So what does that say if she did that to me? Something is fked from the start if its a big deal to go with her ex because it was pre-planned. Pre-planned for who? Him? He has a wedding to go to and pre-planned her for the date? Pre-planned for her? Pre-planned for the bride and groom (they find it important they are there together instead of with others?) Was their breakup pre-planned? I say fk all that and if she wants to go to the wedding I'll go with her. Her ex can get his own date.

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Jman Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Canuckstikan Posts: 22,790	LMAO Big Pimps on GFY with a strong PimpHand... I can only imagine the ones in relationships how you really act around your girl... Remember she's the one that as the pussy you crave and don't have to pay for Oh and who buys purses and other expensive gifts to their girl when coming back from a tradeshow??? I heard shit to many times, this thread is really making me chuckle Wait, my bad. Getting a lapdance in a touch n feel bar is just ok right, I am sure you will ask her permission before going eh? __________________ email: [email protected] Best AI Affiliate Program Niche Dating Program PPS! FantasyXXX.AI Teams: jean.francois.laverdiere TG: @jman1216

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kanalj Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Sweden Posts: 639	why the hell not, there seems to be a lot of trust issues here and that's just the opposite of what you need in a good relationship. or what, you afraid that her ex has a bigger schlang then you? ^__^ __________________ I made that back in the days!