Before I was married I used to go out every night of the week for about 4 or 5 years and heaps of girls used to hit on me. Be confident, be happy and be yourself! :thumbsup

Actually I think you need to switch this around, getting laid comes after you get confidence :2 cents:

We lead very similar lives... you and I. It's amazing actually.

I met some beautiful fucked up women who used me to get their head straight. Want a good guy. But god forbid I suggest ME, then they get creeped out and stop calling you.

Fuckem all. Act like an asshole and you'll get the hotties that want to fuck.

You never get laid because you're a tard. But I already knew that.

Shut the fuck up tart.

This is true. Your goal should not be to get laid, your goal should be to kick back and have a good time. Be confident in yourself, life, whatever, not your ability to score chicks :P

exactly.. but dont fool yourself blaming shit on your weight issue..

Its just an excuse in your head: "ahh.. girls are waiting just have
to kill some weight and THEN ill start being productive"..

I guarantee you: even if you were 50 pounds bigger.. put the
biggest players brain into your body without telling him
he switchted and hell still score the same amount
of chicks he used to do with his Peter Andre look ;)

I go out all the time and bring back girls constantly. Just dress nice, be calm and relaxed and don't act like its such a suprise for you to talk to the girl. Half the time i talk to a girls i don't get their number but instead walk away saying it was nice to talk to you and have them yell to me "Can I give you my number?". Just relax and don't try too hard, extreme attention to girls is a big turn off.

This really is not a good board to ask such a question, most ppl dont have a clue, nothing except all the BS stuff u can read off from newstand magazines giving chump advice.

That being said, do a search on "best pick up line". I posted some pointers in that thread that should help you.

And yes, the key is NOT about pickup lines or "just" being yourself. (Unless you are a natural player, which you wouldnt need to ask about this in the first place)

The only good advice that has been given here is "not giving a shit about it". It really is the less you care, the more you get. (to a certain extent)
:2 cents:

So basically, as always suspected... what a girl says she wants, and what she truly wants are 2 different things.

A girl says she wants what they see in me (for a bad example)... someone to be comfortable with, someone they can talk to, who's responsible, will take care of them..... blah blah blah.

What they mean is that they want someone who'll treat them like dirt, someone who doesn't really care that much about them and is probably not even considering knowing them in an hour, much less the next morning.

Correct?

50 dating experts :glugglug

That's a bit of an extreme, but look at it this way... If you're expecting her to go home with you that night, what do you think she should be looking for? A wedding ring? What are you looking for?

It's not that you should treat them like dirt, but the point is not to scare them off by acting eager...

Maybe this will help you, but I lost my virginity to a girl who said things like 'So you know anybody else like you?' I thought the whole time she was after my best friend, but all these girls might be trying to send you subtle messages and could it be possible you are not receiving??

Well, I am a man (albeit not the best example of one), so not receiving signals is very likely.

Any hints on what I should be looking for?

Probably the single best thing is to work on your confidence level, I don't know you so I don't know what it would take for you to get that, but that seems to be what you're lacking :2 cents:

Edit: Statements like this are key "(albeit not the best example of one), " you should not be saying things like this, when you say them to yourself, you might as well get a bullhorn, you can't expect girls to like you if you don't eh?

:)

Get yourself an Australian accent.

Then you can have all the American women you want.

:1orglaugh

bump for da guido.

I think Juicy needs to provide some input into this.

Just don't look or act desperate
I find that women seem to know if us guys are desperately looking to get laid.

When I go out I do not even think about picking up a women or getting laid.
That way I won't look desperate.
And I seem to get laid every time I go out.

Lose the mustache, you look like 1975 came to visit. LOSE IT LOSE IT LOSE IT LOSE IT

If you have no standards for quality, you can get all you want.

It's like I feel about most married men ( not all ) ..women are out there, anyone can cheat, it's just a matter of someone's quality requirements. If you will fuck fat girls, 40 year old divorcess with 3 kids, meth heads, assholes, pieces of shit then you can cheat all the time and not get caught. It's the men that can only be turned on by quality women ie intelligent, sensitive, good looking that either never cheat ( because that's hard to find a woman with all that to fuck a married man) or when they do, it's not easy to shake a woman like that and your wife will find out.

it's this fucking industry that is fucking me up, working fulltime and moving out of Canada makes it hard as hell to meet quality girls.. I USE to be one of those guys that pickedup lots of girls in university or out at bars..

Like one guy said, just talk to them, make them like you, and leave, 9 out of 10 girls will chase you down wanting you to call them.

However, I will share one secret because I'am out of the loop lately..


Pretty Girls just want to hear they are smart
Smart Girls just want to hear they are pretty

don't use pickup lines, look them right in the eye, and if you get stuck for something to say just ask them to 'tell me about yourself' and let them talk. Buy them alcohol.

Be very bold. Even if they say they're offended, they like it.

My looks + funny/stupid side work for me.

Guys who say they pick up girls because of their money are saying "I pay for sex, otherwise my balls would be blue"

I think what people are saying is that although you need to "be yourself", yourself needs a little upgrade. Get some confidence when dealing with girls. Smile, loosen up (you always stand very still), and at least try to look like you're having a good time. Your body language will communicate much more than your mouth ever will. Practice practice practice! (I'm still practicing!) People will notice, and will respond. And that will build your confidence so you can do better next time.

That's when "not caring" comes in. You'll be so intent on having a good time, just hanging out with people, that you won't hardly notice if a girl starts fawning over you.

And that's when you've got her in the palm of your hand.

:thumbsup

Confidence
Dont have any "fear of rejection"

Tell them what they want to hear

Dont fear anything, <--------- Number one rule

Been more than a decade since I was having sex with different women all the time. Gotta say that after having been married, even though it didn't work out, going out and banging different women all the time just doesn't appeal as much as it used to. More interested in taking the time to find someone worth spending quality time with than which chick I can get in the sack at the end of the night.

Not to say that short term relationships, one night stands, fuck buddies are bad or are something I wouldn't ever do anymore. Just that it isn't the focus of what's important anymore.

This is something that's very very hard for guys under, say, 35 to understand. The best part of a good woman isn't really her pussy and good relationships aren't just about 24/7 sex. It just seems that way when you're young
:)

Heh, yeah... I think that'll be coming off pretty soon. It's annoying anyway.

Confidence is the key it seems. That's pretty much what everyone agrees on.

Guess I'm doomed :(

making women think you're realy listening to them always works...as long as they are somewhat attracted to you...

Look at them when you are taking to them. Be confident. Play hard to get. Girls don't have a problem getting laid, so throwing yourself at them won't make them want you. They'll want a challenge.

don't care..just do what you want

if all you want is to get laid, then go to any busy bar, approach 10 girls, 10 will shoot you down, but the eleventh one you will be hitting


some will...some won't...so what...next


Edit: I don't sleep around much...im just sayin, if that's what you want go for it

I don't know what your goal is but I doubt it's to spend a lifetime scoring hoochies down at the local hoochie-rama...

The key is being who you are. There is showey confidence like most of the people in this thread are talking about ( which I and a lot of other people believe to be low self-esteem) and then there is REAL confidence that is much less in your face but SO MUCH more real. If you are a socially akward person of substance and kindness, be that. Be proud. Be confident INSIDE. Forget all this outside garbage. Most of the people on this forum swim at the shallow end of the pool. You have to know there is a whole world away from this cesspool of people who have no inner direction. I think bragadocia, ego, arrogance, self-importance are all symptons of having no self esteem. If you're a nice guy, you are doing way better than most of the people in this world. That should make you proud.
Confidence isn't a contest of He Who Yells Loudest has the most, but an inner compass that keeps you on your own path. COnfidence gives me the ability to not follow the crowd. I can make difficult decisions that go against group thought. I can do what's right, not what gains me social status.

A lot of them just lie....

:2 cents:

There is no reason not to have confidence... you always say you don't have any confidence, just work youself up to it before you go talk to a girl, even if you are uneasy with yourself, just pretend like you own the fucking world. Fake confidence..... :thumbsup

Just act like the girl doesn't interest you and that you fuck alot... :)

Girls want to have challenges :Graucho

with me, I wanna catch the attention of the girl, make eye contact before anything else

if eye contact is made, shes obviously remotely interested in you

you approach and put on your confidence and charm

and there you have it, you could either spend the whole night making conversation and making her laugh

or take her over to your place and fuck :glugglug

It's men like you that make it hard to be a female in this society. Eye contact means they are remotely interested? Are you insane?

Should every gay man that you happen to make eye contact with assume you are interested?

They have a magnet that attracts slutty women to them.