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Well my brothers were born when I was about 12, 11 months apart. I helped raise them till I moved out when I turned 18 and have been a support for them since as I still live close by. The oldest just graduated highschool, the other has a year to go.
My parents raised me that my brother's weren't "their" kids, it was "our family" and I was the "built in babysitter" (yeah, fun teen years) but it has been worth every sacrificed night out, every time I've gone out of my way. I had a big hand in helping to raise them and I think both my parents would have gone nuts without me. So I KNOW, in part, what it takes. I swore to myself I'd never have kids till they got out of Highschool. Now it looks like I may be lucky to even be able to HAVE kids without fertility treatments.
Which makes it even more complicated, if you have to pay 10g's just to try to conceive, imagine the hole millions of people must be before their child is ever born. Alot of people these days have fertility problems, more than you'd think.
Rochard is right on. When that good news comes, everything changes. But thinking about it is frightening as hell.
Most of my friends dont have and dont want kids. Us GenX'ers are either totally self centered or really smart, seeing the world we live in today.
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