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Well:
Here is the perspective of a sober person, who whas tried to help many and even a few of us here in GFY land. The result is always the same too. You can mention the problem to a person, they may even agree with you, but you risk alienating the friendship forever. All, and I mean all people with an alcohol or drug problem need to find the answer themselves. You can be the one person that really helps them, IF THEY ARE READY. If not this person will always feel as though they are being judged by you. Its just the facts. Scott you are a seamingly sincere guy. I say seemingly, because I know you only a little, but from what I know you truly seem to care about people you know. You risk alienating this person, not because of what you would say, anything would do it basically. I have lost a few friends by trying to be helpful. Personally I have been sober for 17 years, have tried to help a lot of people, the ratio that works is maybe 1 in 200. Pretty sad overall, but its the truth. Honestly if you really, really care and the problem is really bad, talk to them. Just know the risks. Once done, let go of the results. any hopes you have will be decided by this person and their God. There are other sober people who post here, and you know them all. If you want to know anything else I am here to help and that person can find us at just about any show. the best plan is to send the person to AA and let go. Hope that helps brother,l my icq is below if you want to talk about it any time.
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