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Originally Posted by MaskTVMaura
Fact is, that the guy DID have his girlfriend kiss another guy and he DIDN'T negotiate with her in advance if it was cheating. That is reason enough to be sensible and take the precautions to negotiate the important things -- like what constitutes cheating -- in your relationships, even if you aren't a swinger.
Besides, what's so upsetting about negotiation that you would want to avoid it in the first place? When doing business deals, you negotiate every last detail -- you don't just "assume" things. When an agreement is in place, you can always refer back to it and hold people accountable to what they agreed to.
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Romantic relationships aren't business deals Maura. Do you not know this?
Swingers do need to set boundaries.
But in regular relationships it is normally understood that once you're together you're together, no outside contact. At least that's the way it is with most people I know (who aren't swingers)
You being someone who prefers the open-ended style of relationship might find it hard to grasp that other people don't go around "negotiating" with each other every time they meet someone new.
No worries, I'm just as befuddled about your way of life, as I have no idea how people can watch their lover get laid by someone else.
To each their own.