i was hit as a kid by my mom, and though my dad's yelling made me cry far worse than what my mom did to me, i never had the hatred for him as i had for my mom. she close handedly hit me once, and i had a little bruise on my face. her theory was "if they dont understand like people, they have to be treated like animals" (she actually has said that). she used a belt, threw shit, whipped me around by my hair, and all of this till i was 15. im 21 now.
i dont hate my mom now, but i havent forgiven her nor will i ever for the way she treated me, because it was completely unecessary. i never actually did really bad shit. i told her i would call the police once and tell them what she did, and she says to me "who do you think they will believe. you or me". this shit happens.
i agree with all of the people who have posted about some physical punishment is necessary if they are misbehaving. it would be nice to think that all children are perfect and respectful, but they arent. but theres punishment as teaching and there is punishment as taking your personal frustrations out on your child. and thats where i think much of it comes from.
just my
