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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head
Clearly wanting the cake and eating it too. If you were pregnant, suddenly it's all about, "it takes two", "support this, support that", "you need to be responsible".... we see the shit on Oprah all the fucking time... and they even go so far as to create new labels for men such as "Deadbeat Dads" etc... yet we get zero opinion on the issue of abortion? I think not. It's a 2 way street dear... with responsibility comes a price.
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When it comes to the decision to physically carry a child to term, that decision should ultimately be decided by the person who has to most to lose/risk. The woman clearly is that person.
Contrary to misguided beliefs expressed in this thread, gestating a baby is/can be extremely dangerous to any woman. A pregnant woman faces possible high blood pressure, diabetes and even death. I almost died giving birth.
To say that the father's opinion does not matter at all was extreme on my part. Nevertheless, the father does not risk their life and therefore their choice must take a back seat to the choice of the one who has the most to lose, the woman.
Choosing to carry a child to term should be a mutual decision between both progenitors but let's be realistic. Historically and statistically, women are the ones who mostly stay with and raise kids. Marriage was invented primarily to protect offspring from men's natural tendency to flee impending fatherhood. In times when mortality was high and females were not allowed to work in jobs, the only way to insure future generations would flourish was through the protection of children by the laws governing marriage/property/inheritance.
Today, population growth is not our concern as a species. Marriage is less and less a societal norm. Does this mean we have to go back to the days of exposing our unwanted infants in the town square? Do we return to the times where fellas got to make the babies yet didn't have to stick around? Is that how you want it?
There a three decisions to be made concerning a child:
1) To concieve it
2) To let it live
3) To raise it
I think that father/mother are both equally responsible for decisions one and three. Decison two should ideally be made by both parties but the one with the most at stake (the mother) should always have the last word.