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Originally Posted by sonofsam
I feel like i owe a few people an explanation to my behaviour lately... I've caught myself giving a few people on icq a bunch of 1 word replies cause i haven't really been talkative etc... and also kinda tripped out on a few people and got upset over nothing
1.) I'm no longer with epiccash... so if you have anything you need help with or anything, please forward it to Jim or Jeff or any of those other guys, and they will be happy to help... There's no drama, and it's no ones business other then me and epiccash's...I still love the crew over at epiccash, and wish them the very best... They have a lot of great things in store for '06... I don't want this to turn into one of those "rep x leaves company x" threads... i just figured i'd throw it into this thread as a heads up, so people know not to contact me about epic stuff... please also don't ask me why i'm no longer with epic... but be sure there is no drama involved.
2.) the reason i've been edgy, is because my relationship with my gf of 4.5 years ended a little over a week ago... I'm 19 so i've never had to deal with anything like this before.. but i'll just say it has been a complete mindfuck and i need some time to gather myself and figure out what i'm going to do...
also i'd like to offer some of you other people advice on that subject
4.5 years ago, i had an amazing social life... was out almost every day, had a beautiful girlfriend... I'm the kind of guy that doesn't let a girl pay for anything when shes with me, regardless of my financial situation... So i decided to start my own business (my program)... everything i have done to this date, was to secure a good future for me and my gf so that she would never have to work etc... so i kinda became obsessed with working on my program.. I slowly began to push all my friends out of my life, cause i had the mindset that fun can come later... and that i need to get my hustle on now...
Big mistake. i got to the point where i was working till 5am everyday, then waking up really late and starting to work again... see my gf for a few hours, and then get back to work... a vicious cycle. It got to the point where i didn't really even feel like going out places with my GF , cause i would rather work cause i came kind of obsessed with it...
so even though i was doing this shit all with the motivation of securing a future with my gf, i was pushing her more and more out of my life... to the point of actually not being part of my life anymore.
So now i've somewhat had a revelation, and thought i'd share it with you guys... don't get too caught up in your work... in this past week and a bit, i've started seeing my old friends again and started going out every day and remember what living was actually like...
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Nice to know you.
Here is some advice from someone who is like you (work ethic) but is 10 years older then you. I can give you a little preview of the future.
Don't ever compromise your goals for anyone, GF, wife, friends anything. Not when it comes to your financial freedom. If you give in and slack for a women and then 5 years from now she leaves you, what do you ahve to show for it, she just cost you 5 years of your life that you could have been using building towards YOUR future. If those close to you can not understand what is important to you and be supportive then they are not worth giving up anything for. I can see a GF getting pissed " Why don't you spend more time with me, etc..." you are not married to this person so honestly, you may be doing it for them too, but until it is half theirs (lol get a prenup) they wont feel like you are doing it for them too. Shit, even then wives have a hard time understanding that we do all of our hard work for them too. What they don't understand is that we do not really enjoy this, work is work, so not only do we not get to spend time with them (which sucks for us too) we are also working a lot. From their end, they don;t get to spend that much time with us either but shit at least they don't have to work like 100 hours a week. They seem to think they have it sooo hard being with us.... oh i never get to see him, well bitch it sucks for me too that i dont get to see you AND i am the one working my ass off, so cut me some slack....
Anyway, friends are important. I lost most of mine because I started about 7 years ago working my ass off while everyone else was partying. Although i keep close with a few that are still my business partners today. My suggestions, associate with people who have the same goals as you (likely other people in this industry) and let the be your friends. You can still make time for your old friends but don't feel like you are missing out on anything, you can still make a little time to do stuff with them. Trust me, in 10 - 20 years when they are still working pay check to pay check and you are retired sitting on the bitch they will WISHED that they had been more like you. They will miss out on the rest of their lives, you will be living yours. My moto, I would rather work my ass off for 10 years and retire and enjoy live for the next 50 years, instead of working 9 - 5 and trying to make ends met for the next 50 years just to retire on social security and live poor for the last 10 years of my life. So you might sacrafice going out and partying, so you might only go out 1 time a week instead of 5.... look at the big picture and thing about your whole life, not the next couple years. People say live for today, and enjoy it. I tell them they sound like they are betting they are going to die young with that attitude, if they live for today and don't die young they will be wishing their were dead when they are 70 and still working at walmart.
Don't compromise your goals, people should understand, if they don;t it;s not your problem and don;t feel bad moving on without them. Also keep in mind if you aren;t making that much and/or blowing your money then all of what you are doing is for nothing as well. If you are saving, and re-investing, and working towards financial freedom, then stay the course... when you are 19 all the GF's seem like they are the one, etc... the world gets a lot clearer after you go through that a few times, and possibly a few marriages too. It's not the end of the world, you will find the one in the future... and if you never do then you will be able to buy all the good looking ass you want with all the money you have made ;)
take it easy and keep doing what you are doing. I like your attitude, if you need any help let me know.