xenigo

This girl just strikes me as being just a little... off. Is it me? Or is it her? I think she's just a little fucked up in the head!



xenigo: so you don't agree that sex brings people closer?
Myspace Girl: yep
Myspace Girl: sex is purley physical
Myspace Girl: its a selfish act
xenigo: no emotion?
Myspace Girl: the goal is pleasure for you
Myspace Girl: not emotion.. youre only concerned about the big orgasm
Myspace Girl: no w mind you if you are in a relationship then sex is extremlewy important
xenigo: what, are you kidding?? I'm concerned with that, yes... but that's not the reason I love sex.
xenigo: the only reason I introduce sex into a relationship is to bring myself closer to that person... and any girl who I am with who doesn't want to have sex, I believe has some real insecurities and emotional problems. Afraid to get close to someone, etc. Sex isn't purely physical for me at all.
Myspace Girl: wait having sex within 1 to 2 dates doesnt bring anyone closer
xenigo: omg...
xenigo: maybe not you... but it sure as hell does for me
Myspace Girl: i think thats a real distorted way of thinking
xenigo: in fact, I think it's better on the 1st date... because it's SUPER intense, and it's like charting completely uncharted territory... and if I waited like a month or so, I've pretty much already charted it without going all the way... and then it's just kinda boring when we finally fuck
Myspace Girl: hahah finally fuck
Myspace Girl: thats super emotional to say "finally fuck"
xenigo: fucking is a very emotional experience, I'm telling you... I've never had more of a raging hardon than when I've been with a girl I just met for the first time, and I'm between her legs with her panties off...
Myspace Girl: fuck isnt a word to elicit emotion
Myspace Girl: thats very closed and harsh
Myspace Girl: sounds like your looking for challenges
Myspace Girl: not getting to know someone
xenigo: alright well whatever you want to call it, I love it in many different ways besides the pure physical pleasure of it all... it makes me have this intensely fond feeling of the girl like I'm on another planet or something... like pure excstacy
Myspace Girl: lol SUCH an idealist
xenigo: and I very much consider that getting to know someone
xenigo: in a very intimate kind of way
xenigo: and I happen to think that's the perfect first date
Myspace Girl: im pretty grounded in realism .. fucking is FUCKING it has no intamacy or emotion.. again a SELFISH act
Myspace Girl: guys dont get to know me they just throw me on a bed and tune me out
xenigo: ok, well I think you've had some pretty fucked up relationships in your past. I have had some really wonderful relationships, with a few wonderful ladies. I haven't regretted anything at all.
Myspace Girl: ive never had relationships
Myspace Girl: i think i have explained that
Myspace Girl: brb
xenigo: and when I get down to fucking someone, I have full intention of being with them for as long as I can forsee... but IMO there should be no reason to not indulge insex sooner, than later. I believe that would simply be wasting precious pussy.
Myspace Girl: omg
Myspace Girl: rlmao!! you are a contridiction
xenigo: no I'm really not...
Myspace Girl: yes you are
xenigo: get this...
Myspace Girl: wasting precious pussy?!
xenigo: I don't date (screw) anyone I'm not interested in having a long lasting emotionally fulfilling relationship with.
Myspace Girl: fucking right off the bat means long lasting..
Myspace Girl: hmm
xenigo: so with that intention being laid on the table, what is the point of waiting? I believe being intellectually compatible is the same as being emotionally compatible, and I most certainly know that the girl I'm with had better know how to fuck... and fucking makes the emotional bond that much more intense... so why the hell would I not want to have sex on the first date??
Myspace Girl: well ill mental note that!
Myspace Girl: oh and if she sucks in bed?
xenigo: then there's an incompatibility, and I move on with my life
Myspace Girl: i see
xenigo: and get this... I've had it happen
Myspace Girl: thats a double standard
xenigo: no it's not at all
xenigo: because of the sex being so bad, the connection was bad as well.
Myspace Girl: well i know i appreciate your friendship but i now know id never sleep with you
Myspace Girl: lol
Myspace Girl: ill keep my precious pussy locked up
xenigo: I never felt as if I had a truely ---- a TRUE emotional bond with her... like when I came, she couldn't come... and she could never come... at all... and couldn't even UNDERSTAND the desire to have sex... so really, what happened... is it undermined our relationship. Sex is a very powerful thing, and it can most certainly make or break a relationship. And I'm not being an ass for saying that, because it's the truth.
Myspace Girl: you are bieng an ass
Myspace Girl: but i appreciate your off the cuff honesty
xenigo: why do you think I'm being an ass?
xenigo: I believe you're saying sex just isn't that important.
Myspace Girl: you want to get married but fuck on the first date
xenigo: and I think we all make decisions as far as what's important to us in relationships, right?
Myspace Girl: because you seem to think thats a "connection"
xenigo: absolutely...
Myspace Girl: fuck actually getting to know someone for thier personality
xenigo: wait wait...
Myspace Girl: sex isnt that important
Myspace Girl: making love is when im finally IN a relationship
xenigo: I think you're somehow jumping to the conclusion that I would have sex with anyone... that isn't true. I've only had sex with 6 people over the course of my entire life.
xenigo: and I'm saying I would never have sex with someone I don't fully intend on being in a fully comitted relationship with
xenigo: so how am I being anything less than 100% respectable?
Myspace Girl: noah you have known this girl for less than three weeks right?
xenigo: I'm not talking about that.
xenigo: I'm not talking about this girl.
Myspace Girl: i just dont believe in instantanious bonds
xenigo: I'm just speaking my mind.
Myspace Girl: well im using her as an example
Myspace Girl: and if you must know a dozen roses after date 3 is wierd
Myspace Girl: one is fantastic
Myspace Girl: a dozen
Myspace Girl: no
Myspace Girl: nono
xenigo: you've also mentioned that you've have relationship problems... I've sent roses to a previous girlfriend and she was sending me pictures her coworkers took of her with them at her desk at work
Myspace Girl: ive never been ina relationship
Myspace Girl: geesh
Myspace Girl: ive said that several times
xenigo: ok... so...
xenigo: I know
xenigo: so let's say I went out with you twice...
xenigo: and I really, really had a great time...
xenigo: are you saying that you'd flat out think I was insane by sending you 20 roses at work? You'd stop talking to me?
Myspace Girl: honestly
Myspace Girl: ive had 2 boquets sent to me froma guy i went out on 2 dates with
Myspace Girl: it was odd
Myspace Girl: it scared me
xenigo: ok, well maybe that's why you're not in a relationship right now
Myspace Girl: because im realistic?
xenigo: being afraid of people isn't being realistic
Myspace Girl: i am not afraid of people
xenigo: you were afraid of the guy who sent you the roses
xenigo: just like you're saying you'd be afraid of me
Myspace Girl: yeah and i was a 24 year old virgin
xenigo: ok, I was a 22 year old virgin
xenigo: not too far off
Myspace Girl: i wouldnt be afraid of you. thats too soon and it spells out lets get serious after 2 dates
Myspace Girl: one rose is appropriate
xenigo: here... lemme put it in different words...
xenigo: the girl I'm interested in being with won't be wierded out by me sending 1000 roses after the 2nd date. She'll think it's a wonderful gesture, and will have wondered where the hell I've been. Just like I'll have wondered where the hell she's been, because I've been wanting to send 1000 roses to someone that makes me feel so damn good. And get this... if they are weirded out by that, then I won't talk to them ever again. And it will be their loss. I won't even think twice about it.
Myspace Girl: thats you..
Myspace Girl: and anyone who hates on you should be out of your life.. im just giving you my unsolicited opinion .. in my line of work too much validation can be a bad thing
xenigo: I think maybe your line of work has given you a distorted perspective on the way relationships should and shouldn't be
Myspace Girl: no it hasnt
Myspace Girl: this is a job that i walk into and do and walk out and leave behind
xenigo: I mean... what could be so wrong with knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you want nothing but to be with that person? What would be so terrible about letting them know that you think they're absolutely wonderful?