Originally Posted by Furious_Female

Personally, I believe you shouldn't marry anyone that you don't trust or KNOW 100%. Some people change after marriage and that's only because they weren't being honest along. People don't suddenly change... these new personality traits just surfaced later on.

Some people rush to judgment too quickly or are blinded by other things, such as attrative appearances and/or money. In my eyes, you should only want to marry someone if you love them unconditonally and they love and trust you the same. Unconditionally goes beyond in sickness and in health. You should love and WANT the relationship whether your partner gains 200 lbs, goes broke and doesn't have a cent to their name, and many other superficial factors of life. If you can't imagine loving and staying with someone through the worst of the worst, then WHY marry them if there's a chance you could change your mind depending on what life throws at them or the choices they make?

A lot of divorcees say "They weren't like this before we were married." BULLSHIT! People need to use their minds and see people for what they truly are. People are naive and live in denial and too often, take things at face value. All beauty, sex, and money aside... marriage is not for everyone. If you are entering it solely for the purpose of assigning duties, monogamy and something sacred is not for you.

I could never live with myself knowing my husband's main interest in me is sex or other shallow things. I also couldn't live with myself taking things in return. There's a fine line between security and prostitution. Security is when the bills get paid, you have a warm home and there's food on the table. Diamonds, fancy cars, and $2k purses are luxury items that shouldn't make or break a marriage.