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Sly · 01-06-2006, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by chadglni

And something everyone is overlooking is that the laws were written when women took care of the kids by staying home, cooking, cleaning, etc. I 100% believe that a child should be raised at home rather than daycare and a divorce doesn't change my opinion. Regardless of how shitty someone treated me I would still want them to be home with my kid(s) if they had custody. That would mean paying far more than any court ordered child support, same as Donny does. Everyone yelling that the person with custody should be paying 50% would just toss the kid(s) into someone elses care which once again screws the kid(s).

So a mans personal life and well-being should be overlooked so that his ex-Princess can live the life she dreamt of? That's fantastic that Donny and Puff Daddy and any other more successful guy can give their ex and children a great deal of financial support, but the reality is, those guys make up less than 10% of the population.

At various times I see people on this board talk about how difficult and expensive it is raising children and I'm always extremely amazed at what I read. In fact, I'm quite insulted on my parents behalf. My parents divorced when I was 6, my brothers were 2 and 1. They received split custody, meaning I lived with both parents during different points of the week. My parents both had blue collar jobs. So, we have 2 single people raising 3 young boys, it was like I had 2 different lives. Yeh, money was always pretty tight, we didn't get to do a lot of the fun "extra" things most other kids did. But if you ask me, I turned out fucking great and both of my brothers are doing very well too.

This was just another weird tangant to add to all of the other weird tangants in this thread. My point is simply, one man should not have to give up his whole life to raise his kid or kids. There are many ways to make things work. Expecting him to pay a sizable percentage of his income is absolutely ridiculous if it means that he can't feed himself. I have known people on both sides of the situation, and I have known people who have the perfect child support solution setup. There is no "one size fits all" in life, child support is certainly no different.

Money does not make someone a good parent nor does it guarantee a good childhood.