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Originally Posted by broke
Can't argue with that...
But obviously you know that not everyone is blessed with the intellegence to acutally do more.
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I think the bigger problem is men have trouble letting go of their "lifestyle" or "standard of living" at the time of their divorce/cessation of the relationship that bore the child(ren).
Personally, I found roommates...2 of them...to cut my living expenses to the bone. I sold my car that had a payment and bought a beater to get me around knowing that the moment I was living in was not a lifelong sentence. I let credit card payments lapse until I could increase my income/have the effects of cheaper living take hold. I learned how to eat off of $25 a week at the grocery store. I quit smoking...I quit buying a weekly 6-pack of beer. I made sacrifices. And yeah, I was pissed my ex was showing up to drop off my son dressed to the 9's. But the truth of the matter is she was forced into the workplace by the divorce. And while I KNOW the money that bought those nice duds came from my child support payments, without her having the nice duds my son WOULD have been living in squalor.
Sacrifices...that's what you do for your child(ren) whether you have custody of them or not. None of what I did took intelligence...it took putting things into perspective and making sacrifices which is what loving parents do -- they very often postpone their own needs and wants for the good of their child(ren)
