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Originally Posted by eroswebmaster
And do you not realise what that is?
that would include your spouses rent, and utilites regardless of whether or not she would have to still shelter herself.
And those expenses do not end there. I dare you to try and take care of 1 child for only $350 a month, see how far that goes when you need to feed them, shelter them, clothe them, take them to the doctor.
Have you ever checked out the costs of daycare?
That alone can run you $70-$150 a week depending upon the age of the child etc.
So now you only have to pay $350-$400 a month for the child support and the mother is working a job and is still living at or just above the poverty line and all the money she makes including the child support go to just essentials are you going to pick up the slack when the kid needs braces?
Needs new school clothes, shoes.
Or when the kid wants to play an instrument in the band and you either have to rent or buy?
Or when the kid want to join the cub scounts and needs a uniform?
etc..etc.
No some of these things aren't essentials, but taking care of a kid doesn't end with just clothes food and shelter...but so many parents who pay child support seem to think so.
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you're assuming the person you divorced is a trustworthy and generally good person, like many have pointed out this isn't always the case and i can't imagine trusting an ex. i'd sooner pay out each expense and know where its going that give one lump sum and hope she is mother enough to offer her child the opportunities you listed. i'd be more than glad to pay for any extra curricular activies, medical bills, anything that has to do with my child.
350 is getting off way cheap, for sure but i don't think this is the average monthly amount for child support is it? i mean, if that is 10-30% of your income, the person must be pretty poor. i think more often than not people are paying 700-1000/month at least in child support.
the child only accounts for a percentage of the rent, a percentage of the utilities. would you not use heat if you didn't have a child living there? of course you would. the extra amount you'd need to heat a couple more rooms or rent a place with one or 2 more bedrooms does not account for entire amount spent. like i said if the mother is too broke to afford at least her percentage, something is wrong and she probably shouldn't have the kid or should at least do something about getting a better job. i don't care how much daycare costs either, i'd pay it. i don't care about this 350 lump sum being less, its about seeing where it goes and knowing my child is being taken care of.