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Originally Posted by Mike33
I don't know much about child support matters but I think most men do pay child support. The whole 'dead beat dad' thing is over rated.
Many times also, I think fathers try to see their kids but the mothers who generally have custody make it difficult for them to see the kids. The situation spirals downward from there.
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I disagree strongly with the first part of your post. I've been around plenty of single moms over the years, many of whom had horror stories of the father of their children flaking out and not helping with the kids' expenses. And the evidence is right there in the home... you can tell that the mother is, in some cases, working her ass off to provide a liveable home for the kids but you can also tell that some of these kids have to go without a lot of what the rest of us probably consider basic stuff.
I do agree with the second part of your post, but you're describing only a certain fraction of cases. There are also plenty of guys out there who show up for their visitation, take the kid out and spoil him or her rotten, while the mother is the one who has to enforce the basic daily rules and discipline etc, in effect making her the "bad guy" and the dad is the "good guy".
Every case is different.
Bottom line is, the whole "deadbeat dad" thing is so NOT overrated.