j$tlyes - great answer.
being nice doesn't mean you have to be a pussy.
I date a lot. and I'm nice.
but when i comes to dating someone who I want to get serious about - I get VERY picky these days. fuck dates are another story. some I'm super sweet - most that I end up in bed with are ones I don't care about - am curt with, and after flirting and catting with I just ask straight out to go and have sex with.
someone's late on a first date - they don't get a second. I believe in first impressions.
someone abuses me - ok, i might play the game to get laid if they are hot- but they will get dumped. someone like that RARLY goes to date 3. they often get date 2 if they are good in bed - but i just can't bring myself to goto date 3 with someone who doesn't respect me.
i want a lot in a partner.
someone who respects me. My business. My relationships in my business. And knows how to have fun and be happy in life.
that doesn't sound like a lot but apparently in my searching it is....