|
RM, glad you have an attorney. I'd suggest you do anything to have a professional deal with things now...sell many possessions, dip into retirement savings, borrow from parents or whatever you have to. In a couple years, when she's making $0 and you're making $100k, it will probably occur to her that she could get custody of the kids and get $30k a year in child support. You think you're unhappy now, think about that prospect. The ensuing legal battle could cost you $50k each. Better legal preparation now will reduce her future chance of success, and hopefully reduce your future legal expenses. From what I've seen, no matter what you do, she can always come back and sue for custody later on; right now all you can do in is change the odds of her success.
As for suing the new boyfriend for alienation of affection, I hope you soon come to realize that this is pointless revenge. A natural desire at this point, but rationally, it makes no sense. It will just cost you money you don't have to spare. And you're better off with your wife with this guy, even though it hurts, because without him, she'd want alimony, or would fight harder for a larger divorce settlement, or would fight for the kids to get child support. Look at it objectively, particularly with what would help your kids the most at this point.
|