Originally Posted by CDSmith

You know, if you're a part of this online community of adult webmasters, I see no reason why if you're truly in need and have had a horrible tragedy befall you that you can't ask for some help from the rest of us here. It does however become a bit much when someone who has never posted here or on any of the other webmaster boards, has never taken part nor interacted with any of us, never deemed it worth their while to do so, asks for money or has someone else asking for donations from us. I didn't make it that way, it just is, and reading many of the posts on certain threads confirms this.

I am more inclined to donate cash to such a personal cause when it's "one of our own", someone known right here in the community, on the board or boards. Sorry to say it but it seems like it is less of a chance that the donation thread is a scam if you at least know the person from here or have had some direct business dealings with that person.... depending on the person of course. If you've been a total snotnosed asshole on the board for years and then you come on here begging for money you won't get a dime from me. Karma=bitch.

It's hard to know who is on the level and who is legit when these "help" threads hit the board, so basically each of us has to pick and choose accordingly as to whom we donate funds to. I've had no qualms about coughing up some bucks for several people here who obviously really needed help, and will likely do so in future should anything awful happen.... and awful things WILL happen, sad fact that it is. But I tend to hold off or hold back on sending funds when I am unsure as to the legitimacy of the effort, or if it's someone I just don't know.... and reall, one could do a "donation of the week" adding up to thousands of dollars per year if they wanted to. I can't see myself doing that.


And lastly, I hate to say this but I will anyway.... since so many Americans have argued with me and criticized the Canadian health care system in the past, actually told me that because we pay a few bucks extra in taxes that it's not as good etc..... then you see dozens (yes DOZENS) of americans coming on the boards over the past several years asking for help with their medical bills, well, I'm a little turned off on this kind of donation help. Sorry, but you rarely if ever see a Canadian go online asking for money for medical bills (special and very specific cases not included). These past few days I find myself once again very thankful that I live in a country where, if I were to have any serious injury or illness and needed a long hospital stay, that upon my release to go home I would be given NO BILL, only a well-wish for my continued health.

Americans.... get health insurance if you don't already have it. Don't wait until the crisis hits and you have to come to the adult community for help because it's pretty obvious that much of this community is tired of forking out $50 here, $100 there, for everyone who comes along with hat in hand.