If I made it common practice to help everyone that "fell down" then in less than a month I wouldn't be able to pick myself up.
Although we're being general here I think everyone knows the situation you're basing this thread on...it doesn't take a rocket scientist. And in that situation I chose not to help because of several factors that I have openly aired. If that makes me less of a person or a mean person then that's your opinion. People have accused others of being inhumane, assholes, sick fucks, etc just because they aired their opinions about this matter.
If you sent money it doesn't make you a kind person. It doesn't make you a nice person. It doesn't make you a better person. It makes you a weak minded and easliy influenced person if you didn't know her personally.
I can pull up newspaper articles every single day of good people being hurt. Hell, some good friends of mine were hurt but you didn't see me coming to GFY asking for donations to help them. That's just asinine!
I try not to make it a habit to pay for other people's fuck ups. Call me an asshole or insensitive but that's how I feel. If someone that was a regular here was injured or needed money then I would send it in a heartbeat with no questions asked (like I have many times in the past).