Smiley,
We work with softcore traffic a lot, and there is actually a lot of it out there, you just have to know where to look. If I were you, I would go to Jane's Gide, get listed ASAP, and also take a look around for well-reviewed sites similar to yours. The hunt starts there, and should end with some good traffic.
A few places to look...
http://www.indienudes.com
http://www.eroticandy.com
http://www.amateurempire.com
http://erotic.ranks.com
Also, check out exit the popup on GothicAmateur.com
http://www.gothicamateur.com/links.html
you should find some good sites on there, with URLs I can't remember off the top of my head.
As for your affiliate program page, that is what I had for almost two years, and it got me a few really good affiliates. (Well, probably talking to people did, but I got by with a page like that.) Recently, I beefed the page up a little, and it was horrible. All of this new site is brand new as of yesterday. I decided to give the affiliate program as much attention as a small actual site, since it is at least as important.
I am glad you like the site, and look forward to having you aboard as a partner. Let me know if you need anything, and if you find anything useful to be missing from Blood Money.
Thanks,
Ian