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Originally Posted by galleryseek
Well the only reason I told him was to reinforce the idea to him that he BETTER break it off. He's 19 and it was his first pretty serious relationship, and she was already starting to kiss up to him through text messages on his phone.
Now, my girlfriend isn't mad at me... she's mad at her family for being mad at US.
Secondly... In the scenario you gave me with a best friend cheating on his gf, I'd tell her. Like I said in an earlier post, I place a very high importance on trust, honesty and loyalty... I've had friends cheat on girls that loved 'em before and I told them straight up that if they don't fucking stop, I WILL fucking tell their gf's..
It's the fundamental basis of honesty and a bond of trust that people break that warrants action. I do not like to associate with people who lie and cheat, whether they're my best friend or not.
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I won't deny it's a difficult position, but telling a friend's girlfriend he's cheating on her is breaking the very bond of trust and loyalty which you (and I) place such importance on. Everybody fucks up at some point, and my role as a friend isn't to punish or give ultimatums, but maybe to guide perception and action. I would rather talk heart to heart with my friend and explain why it's wrong in hopes that he sees the error. In your case, if he persists and your detest of his actions outweighs the value of his friendship, then all means, tell the girl. But I'd probably tell him I was going to do so and give him the opportunity to tell her himself if he wished to salvage whatever honor he had left. This is a little different than saying "stop or I'll tell her," but we all have differing ways of handling things. Good luck with it.