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Donny · 10-29-2005, 09:55 AM

I wish everyone would leave them alone. Let the threads die.

Newbreed is hurting and alone.

Arika is hurting too.

Maybe they hurt in different ways but they're both hurting right now. It's very sad. Last night I actually went to bed sad over these two.

You guys (Arika and Newbreed) need to open up ICQ and talk. I say ICQ because phone conversations are usually interrupted by yelling and other emotional outbursts. You two obviously have some major issues to deal with. But one thing I CAN tell you is that no matter how many relationships you have you'll always repeat the same cycle unless you TALK. Lay down the egos. Try to control your emotions. Just tell each other how you feel. And don't INSULT each other or point fingers. TRY to see things from the other's eyes.

A. "When you said ____ it made me feel like ____"
B. "I can understand how that could make you feel that. And I'm really sorry. I honestly didn't mean it that way. I was hurt because of _____"
A. "I'm sorry about that. Blah blah blah".

See what I'm saying? Try to stay calm and rational. Don't hang up on each other. Apologize for your own faults and let the other person apologize for theirs. And if they don't, don't rub it in their face. Give each other time.

Just talk.

New relationships are not the answer, either. You'll find the grass isn't greener on the other side. The "new" wears off and you're right back in the same field. Unless you TALK. Communication may seem cliche but it's damned true.

Good luck guys. Just talk. ICQ is a good start.

10-29-2005, 09:55 AM
Donny As you wish... Industry Role: Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 13,754	Arika and Newbreed I wish everyone would leave them alone. Let the threads die. Newbreed is hurting and alone. Arika is hurting too. Maybe they hurt in different ways but they're both hurting right now. It's very sad. Last night I actually went to bed sad over these two. You guys (Arika and Newbreed) need to open up ICQ and talk. I say ICQ because phone conversations are usually interrupted by yelling and other emotional outbursts. You two obviously have some major issues to deal with. But one thing I CAN tell you is that no matter how many relationships you have you'll always repeat the same cycle unless you TALK. Lay down the egos. Try to control your emotions. Just tell each other how you feel. And don't INSULT each other or point fingers. TRY to see things from the other's eyes. A. "When you said ____ it made me feel like ____" B. "I can understand how that could make you feel that. And I'm really sorry. I honestly didn't mean it that way. I was hurt because of _____" A. "I'm sorry about that. Blah blah blah". See what I'm saying? Try to stay calm and rational. Don't hang up on each other. Apologize for your own faults and let the other person apologize for theirs. And if they don't, don't rub it in their face. Give each other time. Just talk. New relationships are not the answer, either. You'll find the grass isn't greener on the other side. The "new" wears off and you're right back in the same field. Unless you TALK. Communication may seem cliche but it's damned true. Good luck guys. Just talk. ICQ is a good start.