Originally Posted by Taboo

newbreed,



Never let anyone become this important in your life. Never let this happen again with anyone else, especially her... even if she comes crawling back. Your life needs to revolve around you... and only you.




Why? Do you really want to give her a chance to break your heart again? If she wants to get back into your life, never forget what she has put you through... all the pain, suffering, heartache, sleepless nights and emptiness. You'll be able to heal over time, especially with the help of close friends & family... but only if you remove her completely from your life. If she did cheat on you, then she does not deserve your love, affection and respect... and never did. But if you let her walk into your life again, you are giving her the opportunity & power to destroy you. Don't make that mistake.




Unfortunately many of us do understand. I've been through it... ONCE... and only once... and I swore I would never let that happen to me again... and it hasn't. Even though it took me awhile to get over her, I did... by completely erasing her from my life. No mementos, photos, videos, letters, memories, etc... she threw me away with no regard for my feelings, so I did the same to her. I'm partly to blame because I was busy building an empire, instead of a relationship, but it was supposed to be "our" empire, now it's all mine. Immerse yourself in your work, your friends, your family... and get out of the house and see how many wonderful people are out there waiting for you to meet, even if your close friends need to drag you out of the house. And you need to do it soon or else years will pass by in the blink of an eye. I don't know you, but I wish someone was around to give me this advice when I went through what you went through. It may seem impossible, but you will get over her and move on, which she will hate (sometimes they like to know you never got over them)... if that's not a good enough reason to get over her, I don't know what is. When you're finally over her and holding someone else in your arms, you'll wonder why you didn't get over her sooner, and you'll wish she left you sooner than she did.


As far as the guy who came in-between you, you may have some recourse (this isn't legal advice), but check to see if your state has:

"Alienation of Affection"





and if your state doesn't have what's mentioned above, then:

"Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress"




and even though you do not want to let us know who the guy is, it does serve a purpose... I for one, and perhaps many others, would steer clear of doing business with someone like that and it'd be nice to have fair warning who to keep our wives/girlfriends/models away from. If he's one of my current business associates, I would lose all respect for that person... and I don't do business with people I don't respect. This person knowingly destroyed your marriage and fucked up your life, the least you can do is make sure he suffers too.

Well, good luck in the future... you seem like a strong person with much integrity and it looks like you are trying to do everything in your power to find a solution to a situation you no longer have any control over. Much respect for you... and if we have an opportunity to do business in the future, after you're over this, I'll remember how you really cared about taking care of your affiliates and business associates. We all will.

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