Here's how I see it...
Sometimes us geeks get all thinking that acting mysterious to a woman (in terms of geeky info, etc.) in some way will impress her. Hell I used to be that way (granted it was when I was 16, but well who knows how old this Mr. Thumbs guy is?)
Anyway, I think Mr. Thumbs had a little crush on Chesire, and tried to impress her with some "mystery" shit that just didn't go down right. Now his crush has been dragged out into the public eye, and there's really not going to be a resolution.
Who here hasn't ever done or said something completely off the hook while trying to impress a woman, and then ended up feeling like a total putz after doing it? Let the geek who is without sin cast the first stone.
Chesire, I know you feel violated. I would too. But... the guy has a crush on you, it's obvious. If your info was in the email then it's no more than a crush with some stupid mystery played in that went the wrong way.
If your info isn't in the email, then Mr. Thumbs, I'd suggest leaving the poor girl alone and immediately get out of the house, go to your local bar, get a few drinks in you, and learn how to pick up a woman, sans the stalking shit.
Jak