Depends on the relationship the girl has with her father.
I asked my wife's father and he said that Im not the one that has to say ok, lol.... Her mother is.... Mom said cool and away we went.
Suprisingly, my wife's grandfather had a nice sit down with me when he got wind that I was asking his granddaughter to marry me from her parents.
I went to her Grandparents house where me and Grandpop sat in his office where he hammered me with questions about my future plans and outlook on things. His biggest concern was me being able to provide a suitable life for his granddaughter and our children since he worked up from nothing to a millionaire by the time he retired.
As we sat there, he told me of many of the problems that him and grandmom faced over the years, the Depression, the wars, the rationing, then kids, schooling, in-laws, houses, car issues, all kinds of things that being married for 65 years at the time you can experience. I was told things that her parents didnt even know.....
After that we got blasted on Martini's.... From that day on we had a fantastic relationship. Out of the 5 other Grandson in laws' I was the only one that came to him, sat down and rapped man to man.
He told me later and grandmom confirmed that I was the only one that he really cared for. The rest were just interested in his money they planned to get once he passed he felt.
When he passed earlier this year, I was the only grandson in law to be there on site. The rest werent able to make it, I also was the only grandson in law called to be a pall bearer at his funeral....
Not a dime of his money have we accepted, The rest of the grandson's have been waiting on their cut. I'll just have it rolled into a college fund for our daughter if any comes my way
Amazing part is that we both grew up on the street in Northeast Philly....well, 50+ years apart, but, we both from the same hood
... that also made us tighter