the TT definitely. i have both a TT coupe AWD (in Papaya orange no less) and have driven a recent 325is that belongs to a friend... the TT is a *much* nicer car, both in features and performance... and looks too IMO.
i don't really see how the TT coupe is a "girls car", the convertible perhaps... the TT is a phenomenal car w/ its AWD system and a really nice modding platform if your so inclined... i have a Turbonetics T05 installed in mine and at 16 lbs. of boost it is hard to think of it as a "girls car"... YMMV as always..
