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Originally Posted by DamageX
I watched/listened to it, the whole thing. Kind of made me think, I had lots of differences with my mom when I was 16 and therafter. I'm 30 now and I'm still not on good terms with her, because of a similar (while not as bad) temper to that of the woman in the vid. I know she's good and she's always wanted me and my sister to do well, but sometimes she just hurt my feelings so bad I never wanted to see her again. This vid kind of put things into a new perspective for me and I'm trying to understand why she was always frustrated and would snap easily. That thing was food for thought for me and made me decide that I should try reconciliate with my mother, after all, she's the only one I got and may not be around for a whole lot longer...
Any of you in a similar situation? Thoughts?
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While I certainly don't advocate behavior like the lady in the video, as a single parent, I can understand it. Your post doesn't say if your mom was raising you alone, but if she was, you are now old enough to understand some of the pressures she was under. Even if she wasn't single, maybe she had other stuff going on. Hard to tell from your post.
One of the first things you might consider doing is just sitting down and writing her a letter. One that you don't intend to mail. Just vent all that shit out. I know that may sound dumb, but it will help you get clear.
Once you are clear, find out what you would really hope to acheive by a reconciliation. Don't lie to yourself. ;)
After that, if you are comfortable with the answer you've come up with, then try reaching out to her. I'd start with very, very small steps, were it me. That way your emotional investment is smaller.
I wish you best of luck with it. As I get older, I struggle with reconciliation issues, and thus far, have always decided things are best left as they are.