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It's probably easier to have a relationship within the business for a couple of reasons. One, you both understand the nature of the business... I know too many people that won't bring their spouse to an industry event -- not because they're doing something most people consider to be wrong, but because so many other people are that the spouse is bound to sit home wondering what the hell is going on after they've seen it once or twice.
Two, you both understand the nature of the business. It's pretty hard to explain to someone who's not in the business why you are sitting up at 3 am typing icqs and answering emails to someone on a different continent. People that have 9 to 5 jobs don't always grasp the words "time zone" and "meeting" as being on a computer through icq.
On the other hand, if you don't want to spend your last half hour before you fall asleep in bed with your other half talking about exit traffic and 2257 requirements and the merits of an FTC suit versus a DOJ criminal indictment, then dating someone in the business is certainly a bad idea. Because it will happen. Repeatedly.
But then again I guess it's no different than being in the same non-adult industry either. If you were both stock brokers I guess you'd talk about the merits of tax-free munis as a long term conservative strategy versus diversifying into emerging market funds with a percentage of your assets, lol...
When I started in the business I'd been dating someone out of it for years, and I certainly won't say that this industry didn't help that relationship to a much faster death than it might have had. It's no secret that I've dated people in the business either. A relationship is what you make of it. Now I'm back to dating outside the business, and it was only a stroke of pure luck that the guy can understand how erratic, odd, and strained things sometimes get when you're dealing with a certain type of people that make up the success stories in this industry.
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