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admitting i NEEDED something from the relationship - something that wasn't negotable - that i just needed it - that was hard.
and it took me a LONG time to admit i had the right to actually WANT something.
the thing i think i wanted MOST was growth. my ex wife was almost exactly the same person i married - and i married someone that i thought would grow and change with me. she didn't - and i had to accept that and then decide if i could accept that in the relationship or if i HAD to MOVE ON for me. And admitting i had to do that for me was HUGE for me to do.
Then came replacement - and that's a huge thing.
It's HARD - VERY HARD comming out of something to distinguish something new as genuine versus what might be just 'escape' or replacement or displacement of feelings that really have to be processed HEAD ON - and that's HARD to do.
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This dog, is dog, a dog, good dog, way dog, to dog, keep dog, an dog, idiot dog, busy dog, for dog, 20 dog, seconds dog!
Now read without the word dog.
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