Let me simplify a picture for you, just to be crystal clear:

We know that Sex enters the mind and spirit of Human Beings before they reach the age of 18.

When know that during this pre-sexual phase Human Beings ?flirt? with Sex in ever-bolder explorations, until they are sufficiently overcome by desire to embark upon their Sexually Active lives.

We know, both for remembering our own experiences and because the list of possibilities is very short, that exposure to pornography is common, very common, perhaps nearly universal among pre-sexual Human Beings.

Those are the Givens, and now the Proof:

Decide right now whether you think the break in closeness that occurs between Child and Parents at the sunset of Adolescence is natural or whether it is an artifice, a subjectivity of this time and this place. I think natural, 100%. I think nature knew to trigger that separation, so as to allow the child go off and build independent experience. At the same time, this provides for the parent a manner of relief from the building tensions and the conflicts of will.

If you acknowledge it is nature?s wisdom that must make a child ?go off somewhere? to become an Adult, then that would explain the enormous discomfort that precludes communication and empathy during that phase ? we could offer the answer ?Natural Necessity? to the question ?Why do parents and their children estrange at such an important moment for the child?? ? Because they must.

And, if they must estrange, and if they must estrange to ?flirt? with Sex, what kind of flirtations would we (as parents) wish for them to have -- ?