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Ah, the eternal madonna vs. whore conflict.
I can relate to that. When I first decided to get involved in the industry, my husband was pretty excited about it. He enjoyed nice perks, too, like sleeping with two other women in the biz who needed a stunk cock. I was never insecure about how he felt about me, so I didn't over-intellectualize and emotionalize what was a purely physical reaction to another woman. As time goes by, and he sees the attention I am getting, he begins to think this is less and less fun...and before you know it, he's asking me to quit the biz. Which I did, as a last ditch effort to solve other problems in teh relationship.
Point being, that while he was excited about me exploring my sexuality, and he was proud that I belonged to him....the more HE over-intellectualized and emotionalized the idea of me having a sexuality that existed apart from him, and our relationship, (even though I was never with another man!), the less comfortable he was with that sexuality.
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