O.K. Long story made short I ended up with a girl that was great in the sac a few years back. We had wild, insatiable, incredible sex to the degree I may never have it again. Anyways, of course.. She ends up pregnant and I always swore I would never allow anyone I got pregnant to have an abortion. She said the only way she would have the kid is if it was with me and we were together, I agreed..
I went through drug problems, we had arguments, DCFS got called in when she swiped at me with a knife one night when I was drunk.. It got ugly, real ugly. I cleaned myself up off the drugs and things stabilized. At this point we are talking Early 2004. Still drank, etc.. but no more of the stuff that could get you a felony for mere possesion.
Anyways, in that time we were having sex literally every month to two months.. I went a four month stint without getting laid - It has been horrible. We ended up finding out right around christmas that she had an Ovarian Cyst which is what was causing the pain she talked about having every time we had sex.
6 weeks after the operation she was good to go again, we had sex and she said it didnt hurt as bad.. I could tell she wasn't the same person still though sexually speaking, and as far as emotionally we get along but there is no real love there.. Definately not the right person to spend the rest of my life with.
I have a beautiful daughter that turns 2 in late August and I know I need to quit procastinating the inevitable and end the relationship, give her time to get things situated and move out. Problem is alot of the reasons we stayed together were financial ones.. Mainly I paid all my bills and with her job she made enought to pay child care, care and insurnace payments, and have spending money for herself. I figure i move out, and after realtors fees cashout the $25K in equity, put it in a low yield CD so I can't touch it for 5 years whil I rebuild my life... Pay her the child support I have to, and get taxes back in order. Here is my biggest problem though ...
She is not all there, she thinks with us living together and sleeping with eachother every 2 months on average it is still a good relationship, lol... I can't believe I stayed in it this long to be honest !! She tells me numerous things, she will give our daughter to her mom who lives an hour and a half away and make it as difficult as possible for me to get visitation rights.. moving all court dates etc two counties away. The other thing she has said she would do is move out of state and I would never see my daughter again.
I know most of you are quick to say she'll be fine let it go - But she really is crazy and goes off the deep end when things get tough in life. She is not mentally stable. I don't have a chance in hell of getting even dual custody as it can be shown through medical records I have past drug and alchohol abuse issues - I am not even sure if the state will let me have her every other weekend and once a week type of arrangement with normal parental rights.
I don't think men will know how to answer this too well - most of you will jsut say fuck the bitch.. But any ladies out there who could take the time to let me know the best way I can handle the situation, It would be appreciated. I told her tonight I want to talk to her about something tomorrow, she knows it is serious, and pretty sure she knows what is coming. She slammed her door when she went upstairs so the fun has begun..
I know it doesnt look like it, but this is the short version
