GoFuckYourself.com - Adult Webmaster Forum - View Single Post - Grieving - Something that society teaches us? Or is it natural.

galleryseek · 05-28-2005, 10:31 PM

I got in a pretty intense debate on grief - how people deal with the death of a loved one (not family members particularly, but relationships / marriages) - this type of love.

This person was saying that grief is something that we are taught to do through society and America mainly over-exagerrates death and the grieving process.

So I said, "Ok, so if your spouse died, who you happened to love very much, and you were a part of some obscure culture / society, it would not effect you negatively?" And this person said, "Right"

I got so fucking pissed because to me, that is complete and utter bullshit. I personally think no fucking matter who you are, where you live, what culture you're a part of, if someone you love dies, it is going to hurt deep down - Sure, you might *celebrate* death as some cultures do, but deep down I think the grieving process is universal to everyone, and a part of human nature.

Am I right, or am I wrong?

05-28-2005, 10:31 PM
galleryseek Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 8,234	Grieving - Something that society teaches us? Or is it natural. I got in a pretty intense debate on grief - how people deal with the death of a loved one (not family members particularly, but relationships / marriages) - this type of love. This person was saying that grief is something that we are taught to do through society and America mainly over-exagerrates death and the grieving process. So I said, "Ok, so if your spouse died, who you happened to love very much, and you were a part of some obscure culture / society, it would not effect you negatively?" And this person said, "Right" I got so fucking pissed because to me, that is complete and utter bullshit. I personally think no fucking matter who you are, where you live, what culture you're a part of, if someone you love dies, it is going to hurt deep down - Sure, you might celebrate death as some cultures do, but deep down I think the grieving process is universal to everyone, and a part of human nature. Am I right, or am I wrong?