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V_RocKs · 05-16-2005, 09:05 PM

I will tell you my own story and you can figure out how it compares with your own and possibly deal with it...

My girl friend and I met in a bar where she worked and was off duty. When I met her she was 5'4" and 118lbs and I was 5'11" and 195 lbs... We both (as it turns out) went to the same gym (next door to the bar). We were both basically solid muscle. She was married with 2 kids and her old man was basically working a shit job and drinking the six pack when he got home and basically making life look about as interesting as an episode of Rosanne. So she bailed him and we had some great sex.

Now skip about 4 years and we are going out, she seperated from the old man. A guy named 'Guy' (of all names) that she knew back when they were young (he was her first kiss) came back into her life. They traded work schedules to try and find a night to go out and catch up. They never could find THAT night. They went to the mall to get me a fathers day gift (I have a son from a previous marriage). She detailed the encounter in an email to a friend of hers that knows Guy from back in the day.

The email went something like, "He bought squirt guns and we actually shot at each other in the mall and then got kicked out. Then we were shooting each other outside and I eventually fell and he dropped his gun and started tickling me. Eventually he sat on my chest and I think he wanted to kiss me??? But I kept turning away."

The friend likes Guy but also likes me too... so she showed me the email in question. Of course I FLIPPED OUT. Said she can never see him again and that even though her intensions my be in check, his were to be with the girl he first kissed now that she is all grown up. She denied it and blah blah... Her favorite way of getting out of something is to deny it completely.

Skip two months later and it is her birthday. We don't live together but I was at her house. A package comes and she is out doing errands... From Guy. It has writting all over the box of sweet nothings. She calls and says she has to take her daughter to the dentist so an hour later I am way to curious and open the package.

Inside it is a ball mask (stick with batman like eye mask), golden string (for bondage play, easily can be broken but of course you want to be tied up, so you go along), a 16 inch white flowing feather and a very detailed letter of what he'd like to do with her and the enclosed items... I box it back up, retape it and put it by the door.

She comes home and goes to open it (infront of the kids) and I say, don't you think you should see what is in it before you open it here? (He is the God father of her oldest daughter) So she says no, I am sure it is OK. After a little bit she is like, whoa... oops.. I'd better go upstairs... She comes down and shows me the letter and is like, what the fuck? Would you write something like this to your best friend of the opposite sex? So I ask around since he went to my school (back in school) and he just got dumped by a girl he was supposed to be getting married too...

I say, HELL NO I WOULDN'T DO THAT. Then she gets defensive of him... awww.. he just needs a shoulder and doesn't know how to ask for it.. Umm... writing a letter about massaging, feather dusting your pussy and then bathing you and taking your "pristine" body out and laying you down to kiss your vagina is not exactly saying, "I need a shoulder..."

So she pays him a lot less attention... years go by and he still keeps sending her care packages... The last one even had dildos... My girlfriend doesn't masturbate so now she is actually kinda pissed off because she thinks masturbation is cheating.. and he is calling her a cheater in a way.... So she throws it all out.

This whole time he is courting another girl we know and they are engaged to get married. So what do I do? I package all up (3 years worth of shit, birthdays, christmas, fuck, even mothers day) and send the entire thing to his wife to be. She cancels the wedding and moves out of their apartment and goes back to Texas. (Good for her).

A year later he finds another girl he likes and they get serious and a year later they are getting really serious and talking about marriage. All the while he is still sending my girlfriend shit. So I talk to his 2 times ago girlfriend who lives locally.. She says she got rid of him because he is extremely obsessive. NO SHIT!?!?! And she caught him making a care package to yet another girl who he is at this time still sending them too even though she is telling the ex-girlfriend that she doesn't ever respond.

So I call him and let him know that if he really likes the new girl and wants to finally marry someone, he needs to quit sending my GF shit or I'll send it to her like I had sent it to the other one... He goes berserk and threatens to kill me for doing that and I am recording the call the whole time. I show the call to my GF who has mixed feelings... On one hand I broke his heart and she feels for him in a sense and on the other, the guy, named Guy, is now threating to kill me...

So she tells him he isn't the God father anymore unless he learns how to respect the fact that she thought of him as a brother, not a boyfriend. Now everything is pretty cool...

But I will end it with this... 7 out of 10 guys masturbate. Only 2 of them will say so openly. Usually they post here about it... I dunno why.. Juicy.... 6 out of 10 girls masturbate but only 1 will say so...

IMHO 7 out of 10 guys would fuck their best female friend in a heart beat. Only 3 out of those would ever fess up to this... While your girlfriends intentions may be OK... His definately are not. If he date raped her, would your relationship survive? I am 100% confident that if my girlfriend and Guy went on that catch up dinner and talk that he would have been very pushy about fulfilling his fantasies about her.

Dig deeper... Google for his name... email addy, whatever... he might be talking about her on some dating site saying how he finally got her back into his life and you are in the way and is asking about how he should get you out of the way.

But then I am also the, "the glass in half full," type.

05-16-2005, 09:05 PM
V_RocKs Damn Right I Kiss Ass! Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Cowtown, USA Posts: 32,428	I will tell you my own story and you can figure out how it compares with your own and possibly deal with it... My girl friend and I met in a bar where she worked and was off duty. When I met her she was 5'4" and 118lbs and I was 5'11" and 195 lbs... We both (as it turns out) went to the same gym (next door to the bar). We were both basically solid muscle. She was married with 2 kids and her old man was basically working a shit job and drinking the six pack when he got home and basically making life look about as interesting as an episode of Rosanne. So she bailed him and we had some great sex. Now skip about 4 years and we are going out, she seperated from the old man. A guy named 'Guy' (of all names) that she knew back when they were young (he was her first kiss) came back into her life. They traded work schedules to try and find a night to go out and catch up. They never could find THAT night. They went to the mall to get me a fathers day gift (I have a son from a previous marriage). She detailed the encounter in an email to a friend of hers that knows Guy from back in the day. The email went something like, "He bought squirt guns and we actually shot at each other in the mall and then got kicked out. Then we were shooting each other outside and I eventually fell and he dropped his gun and started tickling me. Eventually he sat on my chest and I think he wanted to kiss me??? But I kept turning away." The friend likes Guy but also likes me too... so she showed me the email in question. Of course I FLIPPED OUT. Said she can never see him again and that even though her intensions my be in check, his were to be with the girl he first kissed now that she is all grown up. She denied it and blah blah... Her favorite way of getting out of something is to deny it completely. Skip two months later and it is her birthday. We don't live together but I was at her house. A package comes and she is out doing errands... From Guy. It has writting all over the box of sweet nothings. She calls and says she has to take her daughter to the dentist so an hour later I am way to curious and open the package. Inside it is a ball mask (stick with batman like eye mask), golden string (for bondage play, easily can be broken but of course you want to be tied up, so you go along), a 16 inch white flowing feather and a very detailed letter of what he'd like to do with her and the enclosed items... I box it back up, retape it and put it by the door. She comes home and goes to open it (infront of the kids) and I say, don't you think you should see what is in it before you open it here? (He is the God father of her oldest daughter) So she says no, I am sure it is OK. After a little bit she is like, whoa... oops.. I'd better go upstairs... She comes down and shows me the letter and is like, what the fuck? Would you write something like this to your best friend of the opposite sex? So I ask around since he went to my school (back in school) and he just got dumped by a girl he was supposed to be getting married too... I say, HELL NO I WOULDN'T DO THAT. Then she gets defensive of him... awww.. he just needs a shoulder and doesn't know how to ask for it.. Umm... writing a letter about massaging, feather dusting your pussy and then bathing you and taking your "pristine" body out and laying you down to kiss your vagina is not exactly saying, "I need a shoulder..." So she pays him a lot less attention... years go by and he still keeps sending her care packages... The last one even had dildos... My girlfriend doesn't masturbate so now she is actually kinda pissed off because she thinks masturbation is cheating.. and he is calling her a cheater in a way.... So she throws it all out. This whole time he is courting another girl we know and they are engaged to get married. So what do I do? I package all up (3 years worth of shit, birthdays, christmas, fuck, even mothers day) and send the entire thing to his wife to be. She cancels the wedding and moves out of their apartment and goes back to Texas. (Good for her). A year later he finds another girl he likes and they get serious and a year later they are getting really serious and talking about marriage. All the while he is still sending my girlfriend shit. So I talk to his 2 times ago girlfriend who lives locally.. She says she got rid of him because he is extremely obsessive. NO SHIT!?!?! And she caught him making a care package to yet another girl who he is at this time still sending them too even though she is telling the ex-girlfriend that she doesn't ever respond. So I call him and let him know that if he really likes the new girl and wants to finally marry someone, he needs to quit sending my GF shit or I'll send it to her like I had sent it to the other one... He goes berserk and threatens to kill me for doing that and I am recording the call the whole time. I show the call to my GF who has mixed feelings... On one hand I broke his heart and she feels for him in a sense and on the other, the guy, named Guy, is now threating to kill me... So she tells him he isn't the God father anymore unless he learns how to respect the fact that she thought of him as a brother, not a boyfriend. Now everything is pretty cool... But I will end it with this... 7 out of 10 guys masturbate. Only 2 of them will say so openly. Usually they post here about it... I dunno why.. Juicy.... 6 out of 10 girls masturbate but only 1 will say so... IMHO 7 out of 10 guys would fuck their best female friend in a heart beat. Only 3 out of those would ever fess up to this... While your girlfriends intentions may be OK... His definately are not. If he date raped her, would your relationship survive? I am 100% confident that if my girlfriend and Guy went on that catch up dinner and talk that he would have been very pushy about fulfilling his fantasies about her. Dig deeper... Google for his name... email addy, whatever... he might be talking about her on some dating site saying how he finally got her back into his life and you are in the way and is asking about how he should get you out of the way. But then I am also the, "the glass in half full," type.