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No thanks. Most people desire children because they feel "it's the next step" or there is pressure put on them by their own parents looking for grandkids. Even worse, many incorrectly feel that a child will "solve" the problems already inherent to the relationship, which is like throwing a tanker truck full of nitro on a small campfire.
Bottom line: Everything nice you own gets destroyed/fucked up, nights out become a babysitter locating nightmare OR a rush-through-dinner-as-fast-as-possible to get the kids back home routine, and there is no possible comeback for "I'm sorry honey, no sucky sucky tonight, I'm beat from handling the kids all day". LOL, try and persuade a Mom that she's NOT too tired for some action from kid-duty, you might as well argue that Elvis is still alive.
And lets not even bring up the threat issue, the constant never-ending risk that at any moment they'll become a victim of some sort of disease/injury/child predator/car accident/poor judgement/etc, which is not just "18 years" but wondefully lasts the rest of your adult life.
It's one thing if you're very well off and can afford live-in nanny service, which buys you enough freedom that some semblance of normal life is possible, but unless you're in that 1/100th of one percent for income, your life as you know it is over the day the first one is born.
Not for me, and really when thought about rationally without emotion, not for most.
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