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Old 04-20-2005, 09:14 PM  
Danny Dukes
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Originally Posted by ronaldo
I treat everyone the way I would expect to be treated. It's pretty simple.

On the point I quoted though, I must say this...What you and I deem as respectful, other cultures may not.

It's funny that you said exactly that, because my wife took a native studies course and learned something that she passed on to me. I ALWAYS look people directly in the eyes when I'm talking to. Not staring, but as you stated, showing respect.

One day I mentioned to my wife that an aboriginal friend of mine always looked down when I spoke, or when he spoke to me. I casually mentioned to her that I thought it was kind of rude. She told ME that they take it as an affront when you look them directly in the eyes. So while I always BELIEVE I'm being respectful, I'm also careful to take the other person's actions and reactions into consideration now.
I find that alot of people have a hard time looking at me when I speak to them, and I also think they get intimidated when I look directly at them. I have done it since I was young, My father would always tell me "look at me when I talk to you" and it's "yes or no" not "yea or naw" My Son already knows these rules and is very responsive to it and is already looking for that samelevel of respect when he talks to his friends or cousins.
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