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Originally Posted by Pimp Dough
What can I do to throw a curveball at her and make her realize I'm not as sad as this looks.
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what you can do is tell her that with the help of hindsight 20/20 you were able to see how your own insecurities have made you unrightfully controlling of her and that in the end, you realize that she is her own person and and will ultimately do what she wants to do. tell her that she can be friends with whoever she wants as long as it doesn't infringe on the security of the relationship (and i added that last part because it's also good to show that you DO care for the relationship).
no matter what, because you are human, there will always be a sense of insecurity when she's out with her friends, whether they be guys or not. this is natural human instinct because we are possessive creatures. but you have to decipher human instinct with the use of logic. logically, by restraining her from doing things she wants, will only hurt the relationship in the longrun - so use this understanding to govern your decisions with her, not that second nature gut instinct you feel. as a few others have mentioned, it takes practice, but as with anything in life where practice is involved, eventually you will master it and it won't be such a big problem.
it's about conditioning yourself to understand these things.