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iwantchixx · 04-18-2005, 08:51 AM

sucks, but you ruined a perfectly good relationship. Where the fuck do you get off asking her to delete her contacts list? Whether they are friends from the past or not means nothing. She is allowed to have any friend she wants. It's not up to you whatsoever.

"Pretty soon... I made sure she was in almost no contact with people from the past, since she said she had no reason to stay in touch with them"

Again, where do you get off making sure she has no contact with people from the past. Have you ever thought that that might be kind of controlling of you? Even if she says she has no reason to stay in touch with them doesn't mean you have to waltz in and make sure she doesn't. It's none of your fucking business. She's her own person.

I don't blame her for sending you that letter. You're lucky she hasn't dumped your ass and started fucking your best friend.

What about you? Have you deleted all contacts of everyone from the past? Fuck, she's only young and you treat it as if these are contacts from long long long time ago that are such a threat to you.

Just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean she's your fucking 'pet'. She's her own person and you VIOLATED something sacred. Love. You obviously don't love "HER" or you wouldn't do shit like that. You just love having a girlfriend to control. maybe I'm wrong but that's what it sounds like.

I had a friend who's ex bf did the same damn thing you did and guess what? They aren't even on speaking terms anymore. It was a friggin mess. She couldn't even talk to female friends after awhile.

If you really do LOVE her and want this to last, start fucking groveling man, get down on your knees and beg for forgiveness, go see a frigging psychologist for counseling. This is not a good sign. Abusers start out this way. Nip this in the butt before it becomes a physical problem. but most importantly of all, encourage her to keep in touch with ALL her friends, past and present. You seriously cannot expect her to start "fresh" for you and dump all her old friends. She has rights as a human being too you know, you're not her fucking father.
Who's to say you won't start asking her to cut all contact from present and new friends to satisfy your need for complete control?
I'm saying this in experience, my GF used to do that shit and It almost drove me to leave her ass high and dry. She grew out of it and everything's as cool as can be. I did this to an ex before and looking back, I realized how fucking stupid it was of me. That's what it's like being 17 Back then and stupid. Mind you, neither of us went as far as you did. Just gave each other a hard time. Nobody including me ever asked anyone to delete contact lists over shit like that. But as an adult you have to know better than this. What you are doing is something that fucking 14-17 year olds do and it's very alarming if you are still acting this way after "growing up" It's not a good sign man, not a good sign at all. Seek counseling.

/end angry rant.

04-18-2005, 08:51 AM
iwantchixx Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: The Boonies Posts: 12,860	sucks, but you ruined a perfectly good relationship. Where the fuck do you get off asking her to delete her contacts list? Whether they are friends from the past or not means nothing. She is allowed to have any friend she wants. It's not up to you whatsoever. "Pretty soon... I made sure she was in almost no contact with people from the past, since she said she had no reason to stay in touch with them" Again, where do you get off making sure she has no contact with people from the past. Have you ever thought that that might be kind of controlling of you? Even if she says she has no reason to stay in touch with them doesn't mean you have to waltz in and make sure she doesn't. It's none of your fucking business. She's her own person. I don't blame her for sending you that letter. You're lucky she hasn't dumped your ass and started fucking your best friend. What about you? Have you deleted all contacts of everyone from the past? Fuck, she's only young and you treat it as if these are contacts from long long long time ago that are such a threat to you. Just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean she's your fucking 'pet'. She's her own person and you VIOLATED something sacred. Love. You obviously don't love "HER" or you wouldn't do shit like that. You just love having a girlfriend to control. maybe I'm wrong but that's what it sounds like. I had a friend who's ex bf did the same damn thing you did and guess what? They aren't even on speaking terms anymore. It was a friggin mess. She couldn't even talk to female friends after awhile. If you really do LOVE her and want this to last, start fucking groveling man, get down on your knees and beg for forgiveness, go see a frigging psychologist for counseling. This is not a good sign. Abusers start out this way. Nip this in the butt before it becomes a physical problem. but most importantly of all, encourage her to keep in touch with ALL her friends, past and present. You seriously cannot expect her to start "fresh" for you and dump all her old friends. She has rights as a human being too you know, you're not her fucking father. Who's to say you won't start asking her to cut all contact from present and new friends to satisfy your need for complete control? I'm saying this in experience, my GF used to do that shit and It almost drove me to leave her ass high and dry. She grew out of it and everything's as cool as can be. I did this to an ex before and looking back, I realized how fucking stupid it was of me. That's what it's like being 17 Back then and stupid. Mind you, neither of us went as far as you did. Just gave each other a hard time. Nobody including me ever asked anyone to delete contact lists over shit like that. But as an adult you have to know better than this. What you are doing is something that fucking 14-17 year olds do and it's very alarming if you are still acting this way after "growing up" It's not a good sign man, not a good sign at all. Seek counseling. /end angry rant.