So....
My dad calls me, tells me he needs to come tell me something in person....
im thinking, "what the fuck is he going to lecture me about now...." so he gets here and is like, "there was this girl i was dating way back in '65"
i was like, *turntable scratch* " i have a brother i never knew about?"
and he said "ya".
Anyhow, im 30. i have 5 other brothers and sisters. 2 from my dads side and 2 from my moms. but im the only one from MY mom and dad. He was married before my mom once and my mom was married once before my dad.
Now I have 6.
I now know that I have another 38 year old brother, 1 year older than my prior 'eldest' brother that ive been growing up with for the past 30 years.
So turns out, my dad was dating this woman before his first marriage, she got pregnant. Her parents were hardcore catholic jerks and wouldnt let her tell him that she was preggo... So he never knew until 2 weeks ago..... Get this.....
My dad is computer illiterate. He knows very very little about his laptop, only how to search the web for shit. He spends hours doing it. He typed his name into google (name is very unique, my last name is McNerney so not much out there on us) and the results showed him something that made him fall out of his chair.
He saw an old GF's name next to "Birth mother" and he saw his name next to "Birth father" at adoption.com in THE FUCKING RESULTS.
So he has 2 choices, to either close the window and pretend its a coincidence, or to further investigate this crazy coincidence... he chooses the latter.
He contacts adoption.com, they contact the adtoped mother, she contacts my dad.... at this point, he's thinking there's a 50% chance this supposed kid's really his. Then the adopted mother sent him a picture. The picture (even though we have diff moms, looks just like me). Its obvious we share a father. My dad's 50% rose to 99% in his head immmediately.
He went and did DNA, came back 99.987444% that the kid was his.
So my dad finds the real mom and asks "WTF?".
She tells my dad how her parents wouldnt let her tell him about the kid and up until a week before the kid (Joseph, my dad's middle name) was born, she had been knitting his clothing and was so excited to have the child. Her parents made her give the kid up for adoption at birth. She had no clue and now claims that was the worst day of her life and that she wanted that kid more than life itself.
So my dad made arrangements to meet this guy... flew out from Wisconsin, drove up to Santa monica and met him. he's 38 years old. My dad's 56. Joe had no idea he was meeting his real father, he was told he was meeting a friend's of his mothers. This was incase my dad chicken'd out on telling this poor guy he was his dad.
So my pops told the man, "I really came here to tell you, I am your real dad".
They talked awhile, exchanged all numbers and addy's and this Saturday I get to meet the brother I never knew I had.
I feel so bad for this poor guy... His adopted dad died at his age of 3, then his second adoppted dad died at 12. Then at 13 his adopted mom sent him off elsewhere where he ran off with his best friend and his friend shot himself in the head. He's been through a lot and I wish he couldve been raised with my 5 other siblings in a HUGE home.
I have never felt this type of pain before.... almost as painful as watching a brother or sister be tortured... i feel so bad that he couldnt have had the life his 3 other brothers had. My dad wouldve loved to add him to our portfolio.
Anyhow, crazy night.... Just told my mom and she was like... "that fucker#*$#$#" then she realized it was well before her.