xenigo

Not at Starbucks for 7 hours, no. But it began there, and then we walked around for a couple hours in which I did some venting in a loud tone that I rarely use, just to let her know that I mean business and I'm serious about what I'm saying. Then we went back to my house, where we continued to discuss the reasons behind my decision... she kept asking for explanations over and over, and over.

The short explanation is she's absolutely horrible with any kind of communication, which women are usually quite natural with. She'd internalize things and unleash, without much explanation as to why she's so upset. I'd ask her, and try to have her clarify, and she'd just go around in circles calling me an asshole for "bagering" her. Any girl I've been with in the past would be able to quickly and easily offer up an explanation for anything I want to know, but she was different in a way that I can't understand.

She admitted to me a couple months ago that she had been beaten pretty badly by her dad when she was growing up, and her parents are pretty heavy alcoholics. I know that women tend to develop relationship problems starting with this type of abuse... it was obvious how she had been affected.

So I advised her to seek counceling because I honestly don't believe she can have a functional, healthy relationship without driving the guy she's with insane.