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Originally Posted by SleazyDream
21. Why online adult dating?
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Before I answer, I want to apologize if at any moment my answer sounds arrogant or self-inflated. It is difficult for me to speak about things I truly believe in and feel I understand, without becoming a bit of a bully.
The answer to your quesiotn is
"Because I was born to do it."
From the beginning of my life, I felt as if a "strange technology" had somewhow interfered with my in-utero brain and created a handicap of communication in me.
I always felt like I was speaking in a foreign language, or that the people I was talking to were either not listening or could not hear me.
I don't know what "normal" is, but I reacted to the impression that I could not be understood by going inside my head. I spent most of my time in there, speaking very little, and perfecting a language of silent facial expressions, with which I achieved great conveyances of meaning.
I became a
weird little kid, who terrified drunks and readily befriended retards and the insane.
For "dropping out", as it were, from the Constant Cackle of human drivel, I was able to consider the essential ways in which human beings connect.
I watched bodies move in their infinitessimally subtle ways, I watched pupils dilate, I trained my nose to detect arousal/interest, and I became a sexual pianist. I realized that Essential Connection lay not in the words or the circumstances, but in the manipulation of words and circumstances to connective ends.
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I've been on about 500 online dates.
I'm really, really good at it.
It's not because I'm wily or clever or deceptive or coy -- but because I have discovered the ways in which this medium can be used to
seduce.
I have a vision for the ways in which the Web can expand and improve on human interaction.
I feel it in my bones.
I know it's right.
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Over the short-term, we'll be making some changes to the SexSearch.com site, intended to push it in the direction of a more interactive, live, real-time interaction model.
Those of you interested in a more architectural discussion of this evolutionary pathway, should pick up the May issue of AVN Online -- and look for my article:
"Peer to Peer Pornogrpahy"
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