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Originally Posted by RocHard
Here's what you do with your b/f..... Make it your soul purpose in life to prove to him that you can do everything he can do - and make twice as much money in the process. Take care of him in every respect - cook for him, clean for him, please him in the bedroom. Then leave him - and rip his heart of his chest when you go.
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I already do, I am the one who has been paying for EVERYTHING in the last 7 months, because he has no job. The thing is though that I am not a gold digger, I don't look for men who have "money" because I can take care of myself, and to be honest, I don't mind taking care of a man financially at all.
I was even going to help him get in the biz by starting him out submitting galleries or something like that and helping him to make some $. The only thing that I don't do is cook a lot, because that is my boyfriend's ultimate hobby. He LOVES to cook, and he is extremely picky about what he buys because he is a health nut, he always buys the most expensive organic ingredients that are 4x the regular price and he is so health conscious that he won't even freeze food, he has to buy fresh food everyday.
So one day I just told him to just buy regular food and buy a lot of stuff at one time so he doesn't make trips all the time because it is inconvenient. And then he said I am disrespectful and trying to change him, because food has always been important to him, and that I don't respect him, and that I am cheap even though to him I make decent money. So it escalated where he got real pissed and started throwing stuff around and saying i don't respect him because men go to war, and that i am trying to be a man because I always try and tell him what to do.
But the thing is that it's MY money he is using so I don't think it's SO bad that give him suggestions. If he doesn't like it, we can talk about it civilly, I don't really care THAT much about money, it's just that he has a VERY bad temper and started throwing stuff around and yelling, over something so trivial.
As for talking about my probs with people in real life, I have lots of people to talk to, I just don't want them to know by biz though, or know the things that we fight about it or how bad his temper can be because it is so private. It is weird but I feel better telling people who don't know me at all, because I feel they are less biased and I don't want people in real life to know my business.
But even though I pay for everything 95% of the time, he still gets upset just because I gave him a small suggestion of how to spend my money. He thinks that it is "our" money since we agree to be with each other long term, but I don't feel that it is so unreasonable. He made it seem like I "fucked him over" even though I have been basically supporting and feeding him and doing everything for him, even trying to get him in the biz and teach him everything I know!