Apparently I'm not insecure, cause all those things seem rather obvious... and the same could be said about the guys I've dated. Just because I have more male friends than female doesnt mean I want to fuck them... guys are just more fun. I can look at porn, swear at the football game on the tv and call the penalties before the refs do and when I'm with the guys no one things this is odd, when I'm hanging with my gf's they all assume I'm secretly some lesbian... I dont fuck my guy friends, hell most of them are guys anyway, so I dont see the problem. If I have a life before I meet someone and so does he, he better keep it once we're dating, cause I sure as hell dont want someone perm wedged up my ass. People who smother people do so out of insecurity and a lack of trust, because they can't be trusted themselves. They know they secretly would cheat or have so they can't believe that anyone else would be honest and faithful. Competition is healthy, if my bf wants to look at porn, strippers, videos, go ahead, he can get his appetite anywhere he wants as long as he only dines at home! ;)
(although same rule applies to me too!)