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Originally Posted by thefool
Yes, but those type of relationships ONLY work with 2 people that are open, honest, and communicate well. anyone who is the least bit insecure or lacks trust and the relationship is no better than his current situation. Everytime your girl or guy walks out the door you'll be wondering who or what they are fucking, they do it in front of you, what would stop them from doing it behind your back... see where I'm coming from. I offered an open/swing/swap situation to the guy I was just dating, BIG mistake, it wasn't like I wanted to cheat on him, I just wanted to add some girls to the situation. COMPLETELY, ruined the relationship, from that point on he was convinced I wanted to cheat and sleep with other people. Sometimes when you date someone who's insecure & lacks trust, even just discussing a subject can add just enough doudt to ruin any future. The only solution is a Poly Marriage ;) I'm kidding... I could never live in a compound, but I wouldn't mind visiting and checking it out ;) Might make for a nice cam site. lol
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True enough indeed. I was open about my beliefs and willingness to share from the get go which eventually led me to a person of like mind so it's worked out better. I'm not saying jealousy issues don't come up but we don't stew on them and then see them manifest as seemingly unrelated arguments. If one of us feels jealousy we spit it out and why and move past it. After enough times of sharing and things coming up that attack your ego, it starts to die out. Your mate continues to love you even after she (or in your case he right?) took on another partner for sex and you stop worrying that anyone is going to offer something you don't. Like I said... love is love and sex is sex. They're great together but don't always have to go together.